Give my husband a second chance before i divorce him? Need Advice?
Question by Nicole: Give my husband a second chance before i divorce him? Need Advice?
I am 27 and was married for 7yrs to my husband who is 11yrs older than me, -I met him when i was 18 & the age gap never bothers me- We broke up early this year. He is in a touring band and has been for the last 19yrs, he had developed a heroin addiction before i met him but got clean from it. After we married he started using crack cocaine & i tried really hard to make him see what he was doing to himself but he never listened and he relapsed into Heroin again. Through out all this he never stopped telling me how much he loved me & how lucky he was to have me, he always bases his songs about me or drugs. He was charged 4yrs ago with DUI but the charges were dismissed after he successfully completed rehab and subsequent drug tests. He had another relapse with cocaine last year and i had him arrested on domestic violence charges for shoving me but dropped them as we agreed to counseling. I know all this is bad about him but he is really the most romantic person i have ever met and he goes out of his way to make me happy and every time i see him i want to be in his arms, i am so in love with him. He has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, he is not under medication because of his past, but he is suffering from mood swings, but he can be so funny & everyone loves him. He has been clean/been at meetings since January. He came to see me last week and i told him to leave but he said he is staying in town until i talk to him and that hes not giving me up that easily because he cant imagine his life without me in it, he said that he will work his *** off to make me a happy, that he really needs me, he always holds me close to him. Im really in love with him but is it worth it? I really need advice.
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Answer by Rogue Bullies
This is a really hard and tuff situation. I notice that men often feel when they get comfortable with things is when they venture off to other things like cheating or drug use. I have known people to change, but that doesn’t mean everyone does. If you truly love each other and you think this is worth saving then go to counseling, have him get to the doctor so they can put him on the right meds and just take it slow and easy. If it start to feel right then you will know in your heart what you want to do. I don’t think giving him a second chance to save something like marriage is a bad thing if he is willing to listen to you and work through his life. Just have him make the promise to you that he is done and also make the promise to yourself you will be done as well if he continues to use and abuse. I really wish you the best of luck!
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