Friendship through addiction?

Question by me: Friendship through addiction?
I am in a 12 step group and have formed a close friendship with another lady there. She has less clean time than me but is still a wonderful woman in recovery.
Lately she’s been saying she wants to use and I talk her out of it, or so I think.
She’s saving $ and hiding it from her hubby in case she decides to get a bag.
When I heard that I told her I can’t talk to her anymore. I’m trying to get my life straight!
Was I wrong not to continue talking her out of it? I’m feeling pretty guilty for telling her to “Go ahead and relapse! You want it so bad, then stop talking about it and go do it.”
I’d appreciate any sincere answers here, but if you’re a member I’d sure appreciate your thoughts.
I love this lady and don’t want to turn my back on her and I’m feeling SO bad for doing exactly that!
I won’t relapse if she does so why shouldn’t I support her?

Best answer:

Answer by Forlorn Hope
some people just talk about relapsing, because (depending on the circumstances) it is all they have in their lives…

has she relapsed???

also, some people just love the attention they get from others about this… someone saying “no, don’t, i’m here for you”… and yet others who want people who get close, to block them out and make them angry and then they feel like the world is against them…

it is very complicated… i’ve dealt with a potential suicide in a similar way…

try to be supportive, as much as you can…

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