Don’t want to betray a friend but I’m losing myself in the war…alcoholic. PLEASE HELP?

Question by TUESDAYSUX: Don’t want to betray a friend but I’m losing myself in the war…alcoholic. PLEASE HELP?
Okay here is the situation. My husband is in Afghanistan and I am raising our 2 children & currently 6 1/2 months pregnant with our third. My doctor is threatening to put me on bed rest and I’ve already been “labeled” a high-risk pregnancy. My brother-in-law whom I’ve been so close to since I was about 13 and I would do anything for, is going through a DIRTY divorce & custody battle. He has been drinking a lot (he has had issues before) and calls constantly & I “lend an ear” and try to be a friend…he came to my house at 3 in the morning a couple of weeks ago so intoxicated he couldn’t walk straight. I was really sick that night & was exhausted from being with the prenatal specialist for 4 hours earlier in the day….but I couldn’t in good conscience let him leave so I talked to him until he passed out on the couch. He has said he’s sorry & shouldn’t be a burden on me with the stress of my own life, deployed husband, 2 small children & high-risk pregnancy….but just last night he called crying & belligerent and his friend (also intoxicated) said he is trying to leave & you need to get someone to come & get him before I call the cops. So….I took my babies & drove 30 miles to get him & once again take care of the mess he was…only this time he did something that I cannot get over….he said over & over that he wants to kill himself & “blow his effing brains out” (my child was present-maybe asleep, maybe not) I haven’t told him that I am no longer allowing him into my life & I don’t want to “cause” him to actually kill himself or go deeper into this addiction….(also I haven’t told my husband about his behaviour, I don’t want to worry him) He does know he has a history & is really “proud” of him bc he thinks he’s doing so well & moving on from the EX. FOR THE RECORD::: There is not now or ever anything “romantic” with this person & I. My husband is my world & he is very comfortable in our loyalty. This man is not someone I could EVER see myself with in any way beyond “brother & sister, friends” He’s like my baby brother…although he’s 6 years older. How do I handle this. I’m so sad. SORRY SO LONG & BROKEN & SCATTERED! (I didn’t get any sleep last night 🙁

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Answer by maceygirll
Alcoholic=no

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