dont know what to do :'(?

Question by soundofwhite07: dont know what to do :'(?
ok well. ive liked this girl almost a year now, and a couple of months ago i confessed my feelings towards her, and to my suprise she felt the same, the first week or 2 was great, i spent the night at hers and she came to mine, (no sex, just kissing and cuddling)
then she got really sick, and we laid off the physical thing, then the next time i had my “lady friends” then the next time she did. so we didnt do anything for about 4 weeks. and since then its been like a month and we’ve done nothing. havnt even mentioned what kinda relationship we hav, she will occassionally hold my hand when we are watching a movie, buts thats as close as we get.
now just last night she said somethning about she might get back with her ex. which shocked the hell out of me coz i thought we had somethnig and ive helped her through SO MUCH the last few months(alcohol addiction, pill addiction, being sick, sitting with her while she vomited non stop), and been patient and waited for her and havnt tried anything in case she wasnt ready.
so yeah hearing she was getting back with him pissed me off big time. coz he hasnt been there for her ONCE this entire time, the only times he called her was for sex and she was to sick so he didnt bother calling for a few weeks, and when they are together he bashes her and treats her like absolute crap. yet she keeps going back..
i got fed up and asked if she even still liked me anymore and she said she did. but she was confused.
ugh. i havnthad a chance to talk about this in person with her in ages. and i dont want to do it over the phone.

i duno what to do. i mean i REALLY like this girl, ALOT, i wouldnt put up with all this crap if i didnt. and i know she likes me, i just dont know what i should do 🙁 its killing me and i cant just spend my life waiting for her if its never gonna even happen

any one hav any advice or been through this? 🙁
o and im the first girl she has ever liked
shes only ever been with guys.
shes 28.
im 20.
yeah i know, and id b understanding if she was just working herself out, but shes not shes going back to a abusive asshole who is using her for sex. and im supposed to sit around and wait while she does that?
its not fair 🙁
ive told her she will break my heart if she goes back to him and she said she wishes it was that easy to move on but its not.
all shes done since she said that has been complain about him and how bad he is treating her.

Best answer:

Answer by steffi
She’s emotionally unstable right now, which is understandable.
Stay a friend, and let go of any expectations for more. She’s got to work things out for herself. Try to keep yourself safe emotionally.

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