Does living one day at a time mean you can’t or shouldn’t confirm future plans?

Question by sidsmom242002: Does living one day at a time mean you can’t or shouldn’t confirm future plans?
My husband is on his 2nd month clean and sober. We are seperated but trying to work things out. I try to get him to tell me wether he is going to do a certain thing on a certain day at a certain time and most of the time he says I shouldn’t expect him to committ to future plans because he is trying to live clean and sober one day at a time. I think he is taking ‘living one day at a time’ way to literal or is trying to use it as an excuse to not committ to something and then end up not doing it for one reason or another.
I forgot to mention to all you out there who don’t think I know what he is going through…I just had my one year clean anniversary. So I do know how hard it is. I’m not talking about plans for us getting back together or anything serious. I mean every day plans like, “will you be at parent/teacher night, will you be able to pick your son up this day at this time,…
Also when you have a child, you have certain responsibilities that have to be planned for that don’t happen ‘today’. At the beginning of recovery I had to plan ahead EVERY day so that my son would have a way to school, food to eat, a baby sitter,…..ect. Now he expects me to let him shrug off most of his responsibilities with our son and says it’s because he has to live one day at a time.

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Answer by Rebecca
he is being selfish. Being sober shouldn’t have anything to do with making plans. I wouldn’t waste my time on him, he in unpredictable.

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