Clues That Your Spouse or Partner Is Having An Affair
Clues That Your Spouse or Partner Is Having An Affair
In People Magazine’s latest issue to hit newsstands today, Tiger Woods’ ex-wife Elin Nordegren denies any knowledge that her now ex-husband was cheating on her, insisting, “I never suspected, not a one.” Many people may find this proclamation of ignorance hard to believe, but if a woman does not know the signs of an affair she could very easily miss the cues of infidelity, even as they are staring her in the face.
What happened to Elin Nordegran is actually quite common, as she explains to People Magazine, “For the last 3½ years, when all this was going on, I was home a lot more with pregnancies, then the children and my school.” Getting caught up in caring for small children and your own side projects such as career, school, hobbies, etc. can actually set someone up to be blindsided by their spouse having an affair. Focusing all of your energies on things outside of your relationship or marriage can tune you out to your partner’s personality and intimacy patterns, thus making it harder to detect changes in their behavior.
If you are not tuned in to your husband (or wife’s) typical patterns of intimacy, partnership and friendship then it becomes a lot more difficult to gauge an abrupt change in these patterns, and subtle changes become even harder to spot. This is one of the reasons marital activities such as weekly date nights, periodic couple’s getaways and heart to heart talks are so important to the infrastructure of a marriage. It keeps you in tune with one another, emotionally, intellectually and sexually. Once you lose that intimacy routine in a marriage it is very easy for one or both partners to shift their focus elsewhere, many times resulting in <a rel=”nofollow” onclick=”javascript:_gaq.push([‘_trackPageview’, ‘/outgoing/article_exit_link’]);” href=”<em>http://www.cheatconfession.com</em>”>thinking about cheating</a> or an ongoing affair, or affairs.
Another aspect of cheating that can catch a partner off guard is the cheating patterns of the male sex addict. Reason being, someone who does not have a sex addiction simply can’t relate to the adrenaline-charged deviant sexual patterns of a sex addict. According to addiction specialist and television personality, Dr. Drew Pinsky, “Sex addicts go for power and intensity.” Dr. Drew Pinsky described what he feels led Sandra Bullock’s ex-husband Jesse James to commit adultery. “Sandra probably didn’t give Jesse that level of intensity that he got with the mistresses.” But, one thing that a spouse can certainly tune into is the general cookie-cutter patterns of addiction, and the toll that addiction takes on any intimate relationship.
Erratic, paranoid or secretive behavior patterns are clues that something with your spouse is not right and could be <a rel=”nofollow” onclick=”javascript:_gaq.push([‘_trackPageview’, ‘/outgoing/article_exit_link’]);” href=”<em>http://www.cheatconfession.com</em>”>signs of an affair</a>. As an example, a sudden intense need for privacy and autonomy combined with hostile reactions to questions about how he is spending his time away from the home are huge clues that your spouse is having an affair, or is cheating with multiple sexual partners.
The bottom line is that remaining connected to your spouse intellectually, emotionally, spiritually and sexually can very well prevent cheating, as well as cluing a partner in to abrupt or even subtle personality and behavioral changes that may indicate adulterous behavior.