Can I recover from my husband’s past drug addiction?

Question by Jenny: Can I recover from my husband’s past drug addiction?
I’ve been married 7 years. About 2 years ago my husband relapsed into a terrible drug addiction. I went to a male friend for help and ended up getting emotionally involved with him. I never kissed him or had sex or anything, I just became very needy and clingy with him because of my problems at home. My husband and I decided to work on the issues and we both stopped our bad behaviors.

Now, its like we have issues with truly forgiving each other. Whenever something new comes up, its like all the past hurts keep coming up along with it. Whenever I want to talk to him about my trust issues he reminds me that I went to another man. He thinks the slate should be cleaned and neither one of us should talk about it anymore.

He lied to me so much and did many bad things like stealing from me and my daughter when he was using drugs. My wedding ring and even my Chihuahua went to a drug dealer. I was traumatized. I don’t mean to justify my actions, but I was scared and heartbroken with what he did and I was only reacting. I was only using the other man in order to feel safe. My life has never returned to normal.

Best answer:

Answer by Rouge P
Too bad for your husband that the slate can never be cleaned. If he doesn’t want to talk about it, you need not stay with him any longer, as he is unwilling to work to improve the situation. You will be better off recovering from his betrayals on your own. Don’t beat yourself up over your own past affair–that doesn’t justify anything he’s doing to you now.

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