Boyfriend has a problem with Crystal Meth?
Question by Lyndsay C: Boyfriend has a problem with Crystal Meth?
I am 22.. and let me say that I have NEVER EVER done ANY drugs.. I have always been offered/asked to try.. but I always stood my ground and said NO.. not 1.. never!
ok.. that being said.. I have a boyfriend.. have been together for almost 3 months. He and I do love each other and care for one another a lot!!!.. problem is.. he is almost addicted (if not already so) to Crystal Meth.
He is an awesome guy without it.. that is what won me over and decided to date him.. I had no idea when we first started going out that he was into drugs.. but the guys he hangs with ALL do it.. and ALL the guys he hangs with are gay.. he swears he isn’t gay or bi.. I am at a loss of what to do/think.
It hurts because I want to be with him.. but when he is using.. he turns into a monster.. and when he is on a down (wanting it but cant get it).. he is bad off.. and i guess you can say.. i am scared of him at those times. Its like he is a different person.. sleeps ALL day everyday!..
if I ask him something or try to wake him up.. he screams at me and leaves the house and threatens to kill/hurt himself.. has weird nightmares where he is screaming in his sleep.. the most bizare things.. now he does have a bad bad past.. bout being in foster care/molested/etc etc.. but when he talks in his sleep.. its almost like its fake.. like its from the drugs..
I am at a loss.. I just dont know what to do anymore..
if i bring it up to him.. he gets pissed and swears he isn’t using anymore.. yet he goes to his friends house and stays gone for hours on end when he says he’ll be back in like an hour or 2.. he doesn’t want me to go with him when he goes to their houses.. he “helps” his friend INJECT it into his arms, but he swears he doesn’t inject.. just smokes it..
aghhhhh!!
someone plz give me advice.. and not to just DUMP him.. i want to HELP him.
He just dropped me back home bout 3 hours ago.. i will see him again friday/weekend.. what should i say/do?
anything?
there is a lot more to the story.. I just didn’t want to have a book here.. but.. I have no one to talk to bout this in the real world so to say.. so if you don’t mind.. i’ll talk bout it more here..
He lives with this guy that has known him for 4 years and has acted like a father figure towards him.. he has told me that matt (my bf) has already been in jail for ie once already.. and alan (the dad figure) has bailed him out after a week.. He got caught for selling it inside his house.. I told Alan to kick him out but he says he can’t because he says he doesn’t want to see him worse off than he already is.. etc etc.
Its such a shame.. because Alan told me that he has been off drugs for a longgg time now and just recently (around thanksgiving) he started back up again because he got around an old friend who pressured him back into it.
I know that leaving him would be in my best interest.. but I almost feel like if I leave him than I am just giving up on him.. and I don’t want
him to feel that way.. That can just get him even more down and he really will try and kill/hurt himself.
When he is down.. its bad though.. a few days ago he got in his car and almost crashed head on into a pole going 120mph on the road. Tire marks all down the street. He says he wants to kill himself all the time and then he tells me he loves me and doesn’t want me to leave/go home/etc etc.. sh*i, he has even brought up marriage and children!!!!
Oh.. I have a 1 year old son whom he hasen’t met yet (my mom watches him A LOT for me).. He says he wants to meet him/spend time with him/etc etc.. but I don’t want ANYTHING bad happening with him involved.. NEVER!
Best answer:
Answer by longhairgirl
ok i have an boyfriend who only smokes weed and im leaving him because i have three kids two boys 9 and 10 and an littl girl 1 and he refuses to stop bottom line.. you need to leave him alone that stuff is very addictive.. though i have never used drugs in my life i have read and seen and heard of meth.. what it does to your body .. how it ages you extremely fast and how it gives you very awful mood swings.. you really need to leave him alone.. no matter how much you love him… you cannot save someone if they dont want to save themselves feel me… GOOD LUCK!!
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