BIPOLAR dumped me without telling me he was breaking up with me. No explanation or discussion. Disappeared?
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Is this normal for BIPOLAR people?
I didnt even realize i was “dumped” until a week later. All my texts, voicemail, etc weren’t returned when he use to call 5 times a day.. for months.
We’ve been dating on-and-off for 6 months. Never “official” boyfriend/girlfriend but still treated him that way.
He claimed i “bought his friendship” and that he “feels like a prostitute” …and now i have to “pay him $ 50hr to hang out with him”… and that he will always “make time for business” over friendship and then he went on to say im not one of his friends but a “business relationship.”
He has been diagnosed with BIPOLAR, schizophrenia, ADHD, paranoid, & fear of failure. He’s very promiscuous and was in rehab twice for marijuana/cocaine/meth. Also, he was in foster care at age 16 for 6 months. Former h.s. drop out, and works at mcdonalds. He’s 18 now.
Only those of us who thought we had a “strong relationship” that sudden;y evaporated (without any discussion) after an emotionally charged event with our BIPOLAR loved-one will understand how painful the experience can be.
He got mad because he didnt have a condom and i didnt want to have unprotected. He said all his girlfriends must let him have unprotected when he wants. Then he tried to play it off like that wasnt the real reason, and it was somehow all MY fault..but never got specific except to say i “bought his friendship.”
I think it’s very manipulative, controlling, CRUEL, mean and vicious to KNOWINGLY hurt someone that loves you.
This is the second time he’s given me the silent treatment. The first time was in August where he sudenly blocked me, and deleted me from his MySpace..but atleast that time he sent me a cryptic one-sentence email saying “we cant talk anymore..dont ask” before he blocked me.
I then chased him for 5 weeks to get him back. This time I’m furious that he’s giving me the silent treatment again, when he knew it made me suicidal the first time.
This is the longest we’ve gone with 100% No Contact.
The first 3 days I tried to get him back, and I apologized for anything i might have done. The 3rd day of “No Contact” i sent him a voicemail saying:
“this is my last contact, im not going to chase you like last time, my door is always open if you want to call me”
It’s been 36 days. Iguess it’s permanent this time.
Is this typical BIPOLAR behavior? Do I have a right to be angry for being treated this way
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He is taking medication called SEROQUEL, sees a therapist once a week, and a psychiatrist once a month for medication management. You think he would be stable.
I dont know if I’m just rationalizing being dumped by blaming it all on his mental illness.
A lot of people use the cliche: “he’s just not that into you.”
I have this super long email prepared if he ever contacts me again… which basically tells him off.
Best answer:
Answer by Mellie
Woah, this guy is not healthy for you. Just from reading this if it didn’t say anything about being bipolar I would of thought he might of had bipolar disorder. It is normal for them, but still not fair for the other person. This is not how a medicated bipolar should be acting.
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