As a teenager, what do you think about this situation?
Question by Thomas O’Malley: As a teenager, what do you think about this situation?
OK. so I took in my first teen because she was friends with my step-daughter. We went through 10 months of drug rehab to get her home. Then took in my nephew, who was having violent fights with his step-dad. Then came 2 foster-daughters who were friends of my step-daughter and our first adopted kid at 14.
I treated them all as my own, and love them so much it’s almost unbearable. I explained that if they wanted to come live with me it wouldn’t be a party house. That they would have set rules, would have to go to school, and have to stay clean off drugs.
Maybe sometimes, in rough situations I was tough, but it was nothing I wouldn’t say/do to my own kid.
The thing is that now that they are all out on their on thier own they either ignore me or talk behind my back that I’m a terrible BI*CH or whatever. Even though they were part of my fam for years, and I tried so hard to help them and be their friend and family.
They will take what I offer, only talking to me when they are getting something for it. The parents that abandoned them, or even sold them into child prostitution or gave them up for Meth addiction are better than talking to me. I just don’t get it.
So what’s the deal? Should I write them all off, and stop giving, or wait it out? I don’t feel right paying someones bill when they tell ev1 I’m a scandal behind my back…..but they are just messed up kids at the same time. I don’t feel right leaving them without any help.
Should I just write them off, or should I stick around and see if they grow up a bit? They are all over 18, and are only nice if they need something, even after like 5 years of being part of my family.
Please give me your oppinion in this situation, whether you are a parent or child. I’m just truing to find fair ground.
Victoria, thank you. The thing is I try to be involved in a happy way, but each of them ignored me completely until they need something to do with money, like having a bill paid, or havind a driving lisence renewed. Then they will come to dinner and be nice, then ask.
I love them all a lot, but then I feel like I’m just enabling them. A “family” shouldn’t be someone you just want money from, but at the same time I DO love them, and know they don’t have parents to turn to.
bookgrl thanks to you too, I thought I was alone in this, like I had done something to damage them more.
I’m only trying to help and love them and get them into the real world.
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I’m not reading this because I have a life and this is too long
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