Am I wrong to kick my 19-year-old schizophrenic son out?
Question by Twinkles: Am I wrong to kick my 19-year-old schizophrenic son out?
I just kicked my 19-year-old schizoaffective son out of the house – took him to a homeless shelter. It was the hardest thing I’ve done in my entire life but he/we were driving each other crazy, he would say indirectly threatening things to me (told me that he’d thought harmful thoughts towards me – not death, but torturous-like), was deceitful, disrespectful, manipulative, and would not stop at least verbally communicating with an older man from whom he’d obtained and smoked crack cocaine with 1.5 years ago. He cannot work due to social anxiety and I was angry and nit-picky and we were in constant fights. Many of the fights were caused by my underlying anger and nit-picking, and that mostly because of my suspicions. He is full of anger about his lot in life, which I can understand. My heart grieves for him.
I left him at the City’s rescue mission hoping that in a month or so, a bed at a nice residential facility for mentally-ill people will open up for him. He has no friends and his father has his own family won’t let him stay there (due to stepmom, is what he tells him).
We’ve battled his illness for 6 years and we’ve been through hell and back too many times to count. I’m teetering on a mental breakdown due to all the worry and stress. There is tremendous guilt that I’m doing this as I blame myself (and probably duely so) that we can’t get along, but yet, the straw that broke the camel’s back is that he won’t cut off contact with an ex-convict who still deals drugs and is in a gang.
As you can probably tell, this is deeply upsetting and I welcome your input.
He is medication intolerant and his doctors grew frustrated. He had a series of ECT’s last fall that did not work. I have tried anything and everything.
Many doctors, countless, ineffective medications. Believe me – it’s all been done, but he refuses to see a counsellor for more than a couple times. I’ve spent thousands of dollars and tried everything humanly possible. Also, I do have a relationship with NAMI.
Best answer:
Answer by Lovely
Am not judging you, life with a schizophrenic family is exhausting. It is not his fault, but his illness is the causing him to act that way. You are the only support system he got. Please bear with him.
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