A question regarding a drug addicted parent…?

Published October 21, 2010

Question by HolyRollerNova: A question regarding a drug addicted parent…?
My mother is an addict and our relationship has become toxic and unbearable, however, I do not know where to go from here…

Her and my father had a very nasty and long divorce. My father left her for another woman that he married in January of this year. I am not angry with my father anymore for his betrayal, I understand why it happened. My mother’s addiction to prescription drugs ruined their marriage.

My mother has abused pills for over 10 years now. As a kid, growing up, I never liked to have friends over my house because they would laugh and ask if my mom was drunk. I was mortified.

Since the divorce, her addiction is worse than ever. I have confronted her about it over and over and she is in total denial. She “does not have a problem” and “needs the medication for a chronic and painful stomach condition.”

Now that I am older, I am very angry. I feel like I had to grow up way too fast and mother her. I am still mothering and taking care of her to this day. She calls me crying and whining and I have to talk her down. I cannot deal with this anymore. Our relationship is very toxic and I find myself saying cruel things to her because I am so angry at her.

At this point I do not know where to go from here. Should I cut her out of my life? If so, how do I do that? I am afraid if I were to leave her she would kill herself, but I cannot continue living with my life revolving around her addiction.

Please help, any advice would be much appreciated.

Best answer:

Answer by Epona Willow
This may be of help to you … http://nar-anon.org/Nar-Anon/Nar-Anon_Home.html

EDIT: Al-anon deals with alcohol addiction…Nar-anon deals with substance addiction.

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