What to do about pesky landlords?

Question by Tiffany: What to do about pesky landlords?
Sorry if this is really long, I have to have the whole story behind it…sorry again, but thanks for reading!

I know landlords have a point when they come over, but where I live (in Wisconsin) our very first landlord told us the laws about how a landlord, if they need to come over and talk to you about something, they have to give you a 24 hour notice. Well, the first landlord we had lived two houses down from us and always did that and it was super annoying because it wasn’t about the house, it was just seeing how we were doing and whatnot. Now, we’re living in a new duplex where the landlord is our neighbor, quite literally in our backyard all day long picking apples and plums and doing yard work as well, and stops by when he sees that we’re home or out and about or just stops by. My husband works for a ministry which his father started for drug and alcohol rehabilitation the next town over, and our landlord told us that if any of the neighbors complained to him about us bringing “those people” over to our house that he would have us evicted. Now, we know enough not to bring them over because it’s just really unprofessional, but the fact that he said that if the neighbors didn’t like who we were or hanging out with he’d have us evicted. We’re not bad people, we don’t throw parties, we like it quiet, and we’re having a baby in January so I don’t know why our landlord is being like this! Now, last night, we have two friends over, who are also married and expecting a baby, and we just had pizza and movie and game night. They brought two cars over, and left one here parked on the street so it wasn’t blocking our cars, which is really thoughtful. Not five minutes ago, our landlord knocked on our door and asked us who’s car it was and if we could move it because our neighbors called to complain because they can’t mow. Which is ridiculous, they’re already done mowing and the car is not in their way at all. Obviously, I would’ve moved the car if I could, but they’re not here. They took one car home last night and are picking up the car tonight. My landlord also thought these people were going to rent the other side of the duplex and didn’t understand when they said to keep the ad in the paper because they weren’t sure. He knows where they worked and showed up at 9:30 in the morning (the place doesn’t open until like 11:00 am) because it was payday and he expected the first months rent and deposit. So he knows who’s car it is and where they work, I just hope he doesn’t show up there expecting them to move the car. It’s just ridiculous! Is there anything we can do? I don’t want to move because this place is really nice and I’m due in January and just want to get settled, but I’ve had enough of our landlord! Plus, it’s a month to month lease so it’s nice where we don’t have to be here for a year dealing with this crap, but money’s tight.

What would you do if your landlord was like this?

Oh, and also he’s like 82 years old and forgets things really easily. Our toilet was broken when we first moved in and it took him almost 2 weeks to fix it and thought we broke it not the other people before us, and he didn’t clean or repaint anything before we moved in.
i totally forgot to add that sorry, his wife is alive yes and they’re grandchildren are over a lot because it’s the summer still….
And also, we haven’t been getting our mail because he keeps messing with our names and stuff. We didn’t get our mail for almost an entire month (and I was trying to get on healthcare because of the baby coming and was almost rejected because I didn’t respond back in so many days) because he put the wrong name on our address and at the post office and since the other guy moved out we haven’t received our electric bill because we think he told the post office we moved instead of the upstairs guy…
~To Landlord~

The car was on a public street, not on the property at all so there was no way it should have been in any way to anybody. Also, we live in a duplex that is a house which has a basement and in order to get there you have to enter our spot of the house, which he does. Continually. And when he knocks on the door, he is in our house, so yes, I do have a right to be upset. I am in no way abusing anything, I know my rights as a tenant. My friends don’t leave their car over all the time, just when they are not safe to drive home, and they leave it on the street so it’s not on anyone’s property but the towns.

Best answer:

Answer by loryntoo
One of the problems is he’s 82 and lonely so he’s being a pest. Is his wife alive? It seems he uses his renters for companionship, but he also can’t forget that he’s your landlord. Not a comfortable situation. Two ways you can handle it. You can start treating him like your grandfather or you can move. You will still have to keep it in mind that he’s your landlord, but if you cut him some slack, visit with him from time to time, and treat him more like family, things will ease up.

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