Am I wrong for telling my mother to quit helping her 2 male drug addict/alcoholic cousins?

Question by Hannah B: Am I wrong for telling my mother to quit helping her 2 male drug addict/alcoholic cousins?
My mother 52 has been helping her cousins for the last 15 years. They have both been to prison, rehab, jail several times for DUIs, drugs (including meth, cocaine, marijuana) fleeing from police, domestic violence, assault, failure to pay child support (their parents are raising some of their children) and the list goes on. They get alot of breaks because we live in a small town and the sheriff and judge are our cousins. My mother has helped over the years with them a place to stay, which they, their friends, and their many girlfriends over the years have destroyed. I also found out my mother has gotten the out of jail several times, posted bond, put their land on the line. She also hangs out with them and has let one of them drive her around on her motorcycle. (She’s supposedly a Christian and attends church regularly) She seems to almost flirt with them. She has hired them for work and they never show. She gives them money, clothing, etc and the list goes on. I live next to her.
I live next to her with a son. I have found meth pipes and marijuana in her cottage where they stay.
I was 17 and I was kicked out for being “disrespectful” but my parents beat me. My brother was kicked out. My sister left because my mother let another guy move in that was doing drugs/alcohol (a felon on parole, he’s in prison now and getting out soon)My mother is also married. She thinks that by showing love that maybe one of them will get”saved” and turn their life around.
Her life seems to revolve around them. She never has time for anyone because she is always helping them out. cooking for them, their laundry, fixing up one of their trailors, driving them places.
Maybe, I’m a little jealous.
They are ages 40 and 42. One is now in prison/rehab and is going to get out soon. The other was just sent to jail again. I am not sure on what charges. My mother is so secretive about them being there.

Best answer:

Answer by butterflybabe1822000
no it was not wrong to tell her to stop helping them. because she really does need to stop. she needs to be smart and kick them out…and let them take care of themselves if they think they are soo big and bad being druggies. but all you can do if protect your child(ren) that lives next door to her. or maybe you should even move.

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