Does porn addiction affect how he wants me to look for him? Celebrate recovery Q..?

Question by Hiding name: Does porn addiction affect how he wants me to look for him? Celebrate recovery Q..?
My husband of 6 months is a Christian, but has dealt with a porn addiction and is in recovery in a weekly Celebrate Recovery group at church. There is hope for this. However, over the past two weeks he has been mentioning how he thinks I need to lose weight, and he has asked me to wear makeup more frequently, and to go tanning.

Cancer runs in my family, so tanning is out. And I do take care of myself, 5 ft 8 and 135 lbs, size 4. I do wear makeup, but he cant often tell because I go for a natural look with light eyeshadow on busy days. With my weight being more than fair, I have to ask if there is anything about the porn problem that has skewed his perspective about how I should look? It is full of tanned, thin, dark makeup wearing girls. I am thin, but he tells me to lose weight. He tries to control what I eat. He is sad that I do not tan.
As a Christian woman, how should I approach this? I am not naive, and know that no doubt the images he has seen are still in his mind, and how could he NOT compare me, even as a reflex. Should I call him out on this? How do I do it so he doesn’t feel as if he is being attacked?
I understand where some of you are coming from, but doesn;t completely changing my body for him mean he is trying to not be with ME in a way? Isn’t it wrong to pretend to be something I am not to keep him from porn? Look at Tiger Wood’s wife. She was perfect, and he cheated 9 times. His porn problem cannot be my fault if I don’t go tanning.

Best answer:

Answer by Rhonda
aren’t you the one that has a husband in the USAF? sounds the same to me…ditch him, he’s psycho!

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