Why do men act like immature babies when held accountable?

Question by gottaknow: Why do men act like immature babies when held accountable?
I’ve been married now for 6 years to the most immature male alive!I know not all men act like him because I’ve dated normal ones before.This one is just stupid,I shouldn’t have married him.Water under the bridge….but,I would love to hear what you all think here.He can’t remember anything when it comes to me or our kids. Oh,with complete strangers he remembers what he over hears.(especially pretty ones)He starts to show off in front of younger girls,he’s in his 30s.We have serious family issues which he doesn’t concern himself-leaves it all on me.All he does is go to work-oh and he’s praised for all his good hard work-but he does nothing for me or our kids.He has a mind set of a 5year old.I’m serious,not trying to put him down here,he really is slow.He does nothing,I do it all.Why can’t he be accountable when I point out things to him?He always says”you,you,you”.Always goes on a bunny trail about what I do,if he had such issues why doesn’t he bring em up on his own?I can’t stand it.Then he pretends nothing happened & tries to hug/kiss/hold me.What?!?He was told yesterday there was NO money in our bank account-I told him DO NOT USE THE DEBIT CARD.He used it three times after this…ugh now we’re overdrawn.He just sits there like a deer in the headlights when I bring this up to him.Any situation he’s never communitive.Then he stares at the floor when I talk to him.Hellooo am I sitn on the fricken floor?He is like another child,& let me tell you I DON’T need anymore.One more thing,he can’t even take care of the kids,they never go to him,just me.He’s very abusive too,made me loose a baby & just recently he bit my hand till it bled.What is his problem?I know his parents fed him liqour & drugs @13years old.His dad was even a drug & alcohol counselor & went to AA for himself.DUMB I KNOW.So I saved the best part for last.Our oldest son molested our our younger son,I had to fight to get him out of our home,my own husband wouldn’t protect the little guy,he knew what was going on & yet he would constantly fall asleep while the pervert molested our younger son RIGHT IN THE SAME ROOM!I cannot stay in this joke of a marriage or keep my poor kids in this enviroment,I am leaving,but I want to hear from anyone who has true sound discernment….what is this guys problem?It’s more than abusive,he doesn’t drink-I do think he’s doing drugs,but supposedly he was just tested & nothing appeared.AGAIN SUPPOSEDLY.Oh I almost forgot,he threatned me in front of our little ones that he was going to blow our brains out & burn the house down if he couldn’t have us.He’s also told me he chooses his parents over me & that I should just beat my head into a dashboard & kill myself.Oh yeah,he’s called the police on me saying I wanted to kill myself,they came & removed me in front of my kids-when I got to the hospital the doctor called the police & told them to bring me home & remove him.Which they did.Whenever I hold him accountable he lashes out on me,& then it’s all me,until he needs something from me,then it’s”I’m sorry your right I’m sick&need help”.He has gone to people & he just says yep yep comes home nothings changed.I’m going now to write a book on how pathetic my life is.Thanks for reading,please give your advice & or opinion.

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Answer by Eiliat
Not men, your husband. If you’re so miserable, divorce him and find someone new.

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