My husband is addicted to his sons drug addiction, we have put my step son in rehab but he just won’t let go.

Question by twilight: My husband is addicted to his sons drug addiction, we have put my step son in rehab but he just won’t let go.
the son is 24, we put him in a faith based rehab because we don’t hve the $ to pay, my husband spend all his time worrying about his son that my daughter and I are left out of everything, it is like I am single again.

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Answer by birnw2
I am so sorry to hear you’re family is going through something like this. What I can offer is that in a crisis it seems selfish but you have to take care of yourself first. Go see a councelor, make sure you are happy in life and when you are grounded you can help others. There are many self help books for codependency and Al Anon is another great resource. Also maybe try to think if your daughter was in crisis how much it would affect you and how you would respond. Also the twenties is a time of separation from family in our culture and forming one’s own life and identity and it seems like because of his addiction your husband’s son is unable to do this. I went through much mental health crisis in my twenties and my mom’s marriage has taken a beating for it. I guess in your story I can relate to the son and father. I do know that things can get better and there is light and the end of the recovery tunnel. Keep beleiving in the positive and living in the “real’ as you seek out real professional help, a caring support network and any support groups you can find.
This is the best advice I can give and your situation deserves a lot more help and attention.

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