Is domestic violence a “gimmick” used in divorce proceedings?

Question by Jo: Is domestic violence a “gimmick” used in divorce proceedings?
Although the Am Bar Assoc estimates that as much as 50% of couples using FAmily Court had violence (and there are higher estimates), this politician seems to believe it is a “gimmick” used to get a better deal.

In fact, many battered women (suffering from PTSD, depression, nervousness, appear “unfriendly” according to “friendly parent” policies) lose custody to batterers (appear in control, charming even). See The Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Stop Family Violence for info on this topic.

How can this politican get away with stating this?

This article states:
“A town official’s comment that many women use domestic violence claims as a “gimmick” during divorce has angered supporters of a group that helps abuse victims.

The Conway Board of Selectmen voted 4-1 against $ 7,500 in town funding for Starting Point, which offers a hot line, shelter, support groups and advocacy services for people who have suffered domestic or sexual abuse.”

“Dickinson said he was sorry he upset some people.

“Hell hath no fury like a woman’s scorn,” he said.

But he said those who took offense should harness their energy and show up at a deliberative session March 2 to overrule the board’s Wednesday recommendation.

“They shouldn’t be running around gnashing their teeth. They’re wasting time,” he said. “They should try and take advantage of this thing. But I don’t want to talk to a group of 20 raging women individually. I want to talk to a group of women who seriously want to get the appropriation increased.”

Voters will make the final decision on the proposed funding in April.”

http://hosted.ap.org/dynamic/stories/N/NH_DOMESTIC_VIOLENCE_GIMMICK_NHOL-?SITE=NHMAL&SECTION=STATE&TEMPLATE=DEFAULT
Doodle – in fact, fear is the biggest predictor of a woman’s (IPV) murder….so obviously, we do not take her sense of fear seriously b/c we do not prevent 1500 women a year from being killed.

I use credible stats from WHO, CDC, DOJ, etc. and understand that women, in fact, are more often the victim than the victimizer and actively seek solutions to this problem. These organizations dont just use “self reports” – they use surveys, crime data, shelter use, etc. Thanks for sharing, but I prefer credible stats from credible sources.

Best answer:

Answer by doodlebugjimv9
LOL! ‘Taking back the forum’ I see ; ) I’m not sure that bombarding the forum with your point of view is going to take back anything except maybe take us back to the days when you used to do this all the time.

Its sad that feminism has encouraged horrible crimes like rape and domestic violence to be used as weapons against men.

“When it comes to nonreciprocal violence between intimate partners, women are more often the perpetrators”. In fact women were found to be the perpetrator 70.7% of the time. http://pn.psychiatryonline.org/cgi/content/full/42/15/31-a

In the US today the term ‘domestic violence’ has been expanded to include simply being “afraid” or “fearful” of harm from your partner. Two thirds of US states include in their definition “psychological distress” and a third include “harassment”. Can you imagine a man insisting that his wife is arrested because he says she is harassing him? There is a good chance that he will be arrested instead, as happens to about 20% of male domestic violence victims who seek help from the police in the UK http://www.dewar4research.org/DOCS/PlightOfMaleVictimsSummaryMay08.pdf In the real world this definition of domestic violence only works when the accusation is made by a woman. In the opinion of Elaine Epstein, former president of the Massachusttes Bar Association, because the definition is so wide, it is wide open to abuse: “In many cases, allegations of abuse are now used for tactical advantage”.
http://www.onlinelawyersource.com/news/false-allegation-domestic.html

Edit
“I prefer credible stats from credible sources”.
LOL! So for example you think that a nice story in UnionLeader.com is a more credible source than a report in a journal of the American Psychiatric Association??? You must be a real hit at those feminist conventions you like to tell us about, but you would be laughed out of a proper convention.

What do you think? Answer below!