My husbands family hates me & wants us split up?

Question by Ms. suspicious One: My husbands family hates me & wants us split up?
We have been together for only a year and married for just months. We are both in our forties but doesn’t always act it. He’s been babied by his family ( a large, close and extended family) all of his life and they resent me when he dosen’t show a need for dependancy on them. They hate me because his family feels that he/they are too good for me. I have a lot of stuff in my past that I am ashamed of that his family has never dealt with. I had an illegal drug addiction, I use to be promiscuous, I had illigitimate children (adults now) I had minor trouble with the law and I come from a screwed-up and detached family. . This is all in my past. I have beat the worst of odds to become this great person that I am today but that doesn’t seem to count for much with them. I actually have more education (degreed) than most of his family members, I held a career position that few of his family members have ever attained, I own my own home, I have a rerputation of a good neighbor, mother, freind and citizen, I have lived a clean life for the last fifteen years, I have no reproachable friends and I don’t associate with any of my not-so-good, family members. The only shame that I am currently guilty of is my occassional manic episodes which I use a mood stabilizer for and, too, I haven’t earned an income in over 6 years……I recieve social security benefits ( I’m widowed and get SSI) ) He, by the way, has NEVER held down a steady job and most of his income has always came from doing various “work” for his family members (parents, aunts, uncles, grand-parents, great aunts and uncles, cousins, etc.) His family is always turning thier noses up at me. They put me down and they love to talk behind my back ( a relative of his informed me of this!) My husband admitts that they don’t care for me because they feel I am beneith there standards) they openly reject me too but usually they are fakes to my face.. They don’t like it that he no longer needs their “work” for his survival….. which means he isn’t as dependant on them anymore as they’d like him to still be. He spends less time with them, skips on occassional family functions and gatherings (yes, I am the reason) and some of his family members (a couple of favorite aunts and uncles) have dumped him altogether because he isn’t jolly-on-the-spot when they “need” him anymore and they are discusted with me. He has actually threw this in my face but I don’t actually feel it is entirely my fault….They would call constantly needing him for one thing or another and every time he’d return home he would have a chip on his shoulder and have attitude. He admits that sometimes when he had went to thier homes after bing summons for his “help” that these house calsl ended with their advice to find someone better for him. I”m sick of his families rejection and their tactics to split us up but I don’t want him feeling like I’m chasing them off by limiting his association with them. What do I do?

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Answer by China
Thats your husband! You are one now.He needs to stick up for you.Make the best of ur situation.but you and him are a fasmily now apart from the othere family.Stand your ground and dont let anyone direspect your union.Work on the love you have for eachother

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