How do you handle a 14 year old boy making passes at you?

Question by Gabrielle ♡: How do you handle a 14 year old boy making passes at you?
My husband and I know a couple who have had to take in her husband’s teenage brother because the mom just left and he is a very rowdy, undisciplined teen. We are very close friends with this couple and have them over to our house often and they bring the husband’s brother, which is ok for the most part.

This teenager is large for his age. He stands a good 3 inches taller than me and is a burly young man. He’s 14 years old and is not known for his tact. He has been suspended from school for kissing a teacher for goodness sake!

Anyhow this boy seems to be making passes at me, even with my husband there in the same house. The other night he actually took the liberty of inappropriately hugging me (which was VERY unwanted physical contact). I was in my kitchen slicing up a salad and he came in there and while we were alone he reached around my waist and hugged me quickly. I didn’t encourage it but I wasn’t sure how to react. I stepped away quickly and excused myself and told my husband, who was not happy to say the least.

But given that the teen is still a minor, what can I do to avoid future unwanted contact? My husband says I have the right to slap him across the face, but I am uneasy about doing such a thing for fear of being charged with “child abuse”.

Can that his actions still be considered sexual harassment even though he’s a minor and I’m an adult? I am really uncomfortable around this boy and I don’t want to be touched by him again.
For the record, I don’t allow myself to be put in the position of being alone at all when this boy comes to our house.
Yessi- I don’t believe it is abuse to slap someone for touching you inappropriately. Now I don’t believe I could ever slap a minor like that, but if he were to touch something (such as a breast or my backside) you better believe he will be slapped. That is assault on ME. The boy has to know better than to touch a female like that without her permission.
Also Yessi, I didn’t mean to sound mean in my edit to you, but I feel it’s rather strange that you tell me that “violence” is not the answer when clearly the teen is sexually crossing the line with me, a married woman.

And as for leaving it to politely asking them not to bring him, that does not do anything for the actions he’s already done. Just because he’s a minor does not excuse him from what he did.

Best answer:

Answer by Yessi
Physical abuse/violence is NOT the answer. You should inform your friends of the child’s behavior, and if he keeps doing it then politely ask them not to bring him with them next time.

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