Step-son’s school accused me of “abuse” when he got in trouble..?

Question by Confused Guy: Step-son’s school accused me of “abuse” when he got in trouble..?
My 6 year old step son (he, his mother, my three year old daughter and myself all live together) goes to an elementary school no more than 3 blocks away. We thought we love the school, the staff is great, the atmosphere is great, and we are both very active in his activities there, have been for a couple years now. Even I, myself am very familiar with all the staff he interacts with daily.
However, yesterday his mother was pulled aside by a detective just after picking him up from school to ask her some questions. He had her get in his car and leave her son with someone for a few moments. He began to run down the scenario he was currently dealing with…..
He had just came from questioning her son prior to her picking him up because apparently, last week when he got a “yellow” which is the way our school deals with misbehavior (green, yellow, red), he quote “told the teacher he was afraid to go home because he had gotten in trouble”. This had nothing to do with marks on his body, or him directly claiming abuse by a specific parent, just simply scared to home because he went to the yellow. Every time he “goes to the yellow” though, he’s very open with me about it. Often times when I pick him up from school and ask how his day was he’ll say right away, “it was bad”.
When I ask him why it was bad he’ll say it’s ’cause he went to yellow and will proceed to very openly tell me about why it happened and what he did to bring it on, i.e. talking in class, not paying attention etc.. The most I’ll EVER do is have a talk with him about what it is he could’ve done right and so on, what big boys should do in that situation and so on.. First of all, in our household I implement NO punishments for him what-so-ever. I’ll lecture, use a firm tone or discipline him verbally when necessary on right from wrong but if it comes to a point where punishment is necessary I’ll bring it to his mother’s attention immediately, if she isn’t already aware. And she uses time-out only….
So yesterday, this detective made it clear to her when going through the appropriate questioning, that when he interviewed her son he uses a method of questioning for children that helps him tell whether he’s being abused, making stuff up or not etc.. He told her it was clear that he was doing make believe and that he also conveyed this to whatever staff had been involved at the school.
However, he said a social worker will still be calling her and coming to our home to investigate. I have a three year old daughter who I took full custody of a few years back, and her bio-mother chooses to be in her life rarely, if that. So, she knows my girlfriend as “mommy” and she’s all she’s known for 2 years now. My imagination is running wild now, especially because her son is prone to making stuff up. Just last year we received emails from his Kindergarten teacher because he had been quote “saying he was going to stab a little girl’s eyes out”. This scared us to death, to the point where we put all kitchen and butter knives up so high in cabinets that even WE could barely reach ’em. But when we went to have a conference with her about it, she said it wasn’t actually by himself, that there was a group of boys saying that. So I don’t know….

The detective assured her that there was no problem here and that’s how he was going to be reporting it. He did not make her sign anything and from what she said he seemed very genuine when he told her there’s no case here.
We don’t know what to do though, can anyone tell us how we should follow-up? We live in NE. We’re still both scared to death as NOTHING like this has EVER happened to us before…..

Best answer:

Answer by brittany
Relax, though the cop is bs if he still sending out a social worker, hes writing something up. If there was no case then they wouldn’t have a social worker, as long as they come to your house see its a safe sane place for your kids to be, they’ll leave and never come back, nothing to worry about

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