Is there counseling for parents that have problems coping with their childs abuse?
Question by angelas_mystique: Is there counseling for parents that have problems coping with their childs abuse?
I was sexually abused as a early teenager. My dad drug me to counseling alot as a teenagera and i hated it. He also tells all of his friends about my past as like a poor pity story these are things that i dont want everyone to know about. I am a grown woman now with my own house just got married. He sent my mother a letter telling her that i need intensive and extensive counseling. I am 23 years old and it happened with i was 14 i havent even thought about it since then. everytime i get mad at him he things it is because of this and tells me “i need to deal with my issues” I DONT HAVE any issues!!! it makes me soo mad i havent spoken to him in 5 months since he sent my mother this rape counseling kit. and he as my parents me being their child it is their duty to help me…. umm im not a child anymore!! im a grown ass woman…. what can I do to make me stop hounding me and make him stop telling everyone MY business?
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Answer by quantumkev
There is counseling for issues like you are experiencing – it is normally called ‘family counseling’, or something similar. I would STRONGLY suggest that you make an appt with a counselor, and tell them exactly what happened, and what is giong on now with your dad. I am certain that the counselor will want to have sessions with both of you, and during those sessions, the counselor can mediate, and talk to your dad on your behalf. It is absoltely unacceptable for your dad to tell ANYBODY about what happened to you, and it is also wrong for him to keep bringing that up as an “excuse” for what he thinks are your problems. While you may have hated counseling when you were younger – most likely because you were forced to go – you may find it much more helpful going voluntarily. You can choose the counselor yourself, and find someone that you feel comforttable with. But be prepared to look inside yourself as well – there may be some unresolved issues deep inside that need addressing, and you will have a much greater chance of having a happy life if you deal with them now rather than later. Good luck : )
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