My boss accused me of stealing which is not true, I’ve been friends with his family 25 years..do I call them?

Question by Jennifer C: My boss accused me of stealing which is not true, I’ve been friends with his family 25 years..do I call them?
I have been friends with this family for more than 25years. I have been working for one of the sisters (the only member of the fam I was not really close to) and her husband over the past 6 months. Ironically, several of the family members had told me I was “crazy” to work for them because they were nuts… but I had never seen that side and took the job. Well, they were right. My direct boss suffers from severe ADD, and takes no meds for it, he smokes an insane amount of pot everyday all day… so every day trying to get the smallest tasks accomplished is like pulling teeth. They both are EXTREMELY irresponsible, unreliable, and manipulative. The long and short is my HP laptop (personal) crashed and I was devastated because I had lost everything. He told me not to worry, we could figure something out. I informed him I planned to purchase a PC laptop to replace it for around 300. He insisted that a MacBook was the way to go, and because all of his computers are Laptops, it would be more convenient for me to utilize for work too. In the meantime, he said he would clean off an extra Mac Desktop that I could use at home… 4 weeks past, and I asked him numerous times if we could clean it off so I could use it… he never did it. Finally, I had to call him (he is never available to talk to or in the office) in our conversation, I said that I really, really needed to get a laptop asap. I asked him if he would recommend I buy a “used” or “refurbished” MacBook because I saw some for less than $ 800 and they are 15″ which I like. He said no a new MacBook is the way to go and you can get AppleCare with it and don’t get a 15″..definitely go with a 13″. In the same conversation, I very clearly said.. those are really expensive and I cannot afford to buy one, would it be ok if I take out an advance for it? He clearly answered yes, that’s fine, we can work out the details later. I am in charge of all of his finances, writing all checks, and paying all bills. Because he is never available and is totally irresponsible he agreed some time prior to sign blank checks for me to use to pay bills or whatever needed to be handled. So I wrote out a check to myself (signed by him) for an advance. The new MacBook came to approx 1900. About a month had gone by and I was leaving for Mexico for a vacation from which I intended to work in the am’s. As I was leaving work the day prior to my trip, he asked what I would be working on and how. I showed him my list of tasks to complete and said I would be working from my MacBook. He looked shocked and asked what MacBook?! Did I buy that?! I said yes, you approved an advance for it. Well…. he totally denied that we ever had this conversation, said I STOLE $ 2000 from him. I assured him that is not the case and he asked why I never came to him to work out a payment plan… in this area he is right, knowing how mental he can be, I should have come to him right away or made him find time to do a finance review (which we are supposed to do weekly, and never do because he won’t commit to sitting down to it…and I might mention that the MacBook has been right there in plain sight in his bank statements, his financial reports, etc.. that we would review) I should have figured out a payment plan or whatever right away. But a month went by, we were busy, he was never around… etc.. time just slipped by. So, now he’s accusing me of stealing 2K from him, and his wife (my friends daughter) is going psycho crazy screaming at me, all kinds of profanities, etc… saying she can’t believe I would steal from them, and she’s told her whole family and they are in complete shock and agree that I stole (because neither of them told them that I as APPROVED and given the ok to take out an advance… they never mentioned that i never wanted to buy a MacBook in the first place but they insisted that’s what I get… he kept trying to say that he would never ok it because he can get a brand new one for $ 900..which he never mentioned) So, a longggg story short, I am absolutely devastated and now jobless over the whole thing. I am a VERY honest woman and mother, I have never and would never steal from anyone…. and if I were in a huge desperate rut as he proclaimed I am and that’s why I would steal…. I have many family members and friends that would gladly lend me money anytime for any reason.
So, my question is this: I cannot stop thinking about all of this, I cannot stop feeling devastated, even though I know I didn’t do what they are accusing me of… Do I call my personal friend in the family to explain my side? Do I just let it go? I feel like I should call and inform them that there are always 2 sides to every story and although I should have handled it differently knowing what type of boss I was dealing with, I would never steal.
What should I do??
Oh, and yes, I have paid the
paid them in full

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Answer by MilkyWay
ok my answer to the top question is yes, call the family but let me read all this first and ill do an EDIT

EDIT:
yes you should call that personal friend, if you are telling the truth, you need to make sure they know it, do you really want people thinking that of you? im assuming your personal friend knows what your boss i like so i’m sure he/she will believe you, and ask him/her to talk to the rest of that family about it. assuming that he has to personally signs the checks, that prooves almost that he knew about it. and just forgot. and also explain how he’s never around, and smokes drugs and forgets things easily. oh and also point out that you found one for less money but he insisted you get a better( more expensive) one. basically just repeat everything you said in this question

good luck

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