I am obsessed with my step kids that my husband isn’t allowed to see. Why? Please help.?

Question by Mad Aussie Scientist: I am obsessed with my step kids that my husband isn’t allowed to see. Why? Please help.?
My husband has two sons from previous relationships. The eldest O, is turning 10 this year. The youngest D, has turned 8 this year.

We are paying child support for the eldest son, but the court order states that my husband is not to have visitation with him. However, it also states that the mother is to send us copies of his school photos, school records and medical records. O’s mother hates my husband with a hatred that I haven’t seen before. When his child support payment was late, she would beat O and tell him how worthless he is etc. I have also found out that she is using crystal meth, and the children in the family are very skinny.

I found her on myspace, became her friend and downloaded the photos of O (as my husband hasn’t seen him since he was 6 months old). She cleaned out her friends list and booted me off with about 100 other people.

My question is this. I have become increasingly obsessed with knowing about his other kids, since trying to start a family for ourselves.
My husband has immigrated to live with me. I don’t think we can go to court unless we take a trip to the US. Approximately 00 each.

The youngest son D lived with my husband and his ex wife until he was 2 years old. I have current up to date pictures of him because of a phony myspace profile. Again.

She denied my husband seeing D when they were divorcing to hurt my husband. D was my husband’s world. Just before the final divorce proceedings she called us up and told my husband that he was not the father. This gutted him completely.

We found out later that she was lying. She then told him that either he could pay child support and not see his son, or not pay, and not see him.

Trying to start a family and I’m obsessed with finding the truth.

What can I do to reconcile my feeling about the kids. My husband has come to terms that he won’t see his kids. I feel cheated for his kids. Why can’t I let it go? What can you recommend? The exes both verbally bash hubby in front of kids.

Best answer:

Answer by liltexas36
don’t worry hiskids will look for him sooner or later ..

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