Boyfriends Friends Do Bad Things (cocain, cheating) – Should I be worried?

Question by willia993: Boyfriends Friends Do Bad Things (cocain, cheating) – Should I be worried?
Should I be concerned? I keep returning to the thought, why does he choose people like this to be in his life? I have always believed who we pick as our friends reflect who we are. One of them cheats on his pregnant girlfriend (they all cheat regularly but this particular one has a pregnant girlfriend and continues to cheat). They abuse not just cocaine but prescription drugs as well. He doesn’t see anything wrong with having these people close to him – in fact he calls them “good people.” These are the people he trusts with his ATM pin. He feels they are good friends because they have been in the past when he has gone through stuff. I look around at my friends and they are all emotionally healthy moral people who use do drugs – they reflect who I am.

I would never ask him not to hang out with them – that’s not the issue (although I cant say I wouldn’t be happy if he traded up). My questions is, should I be concerned that these are the choices he makes in picking friends?
Oh and he does behave differently when he is with them (stays out all night, lies to me about where he is, meets up with x girlfriends). Though my questions here is more about the choices one makes when choosing their friends.
one more side note – my 13 year old daughter told me yesterday that she wasn’t going to be friends with one of the girls at school anymore because she started smoking and she doesn’t want to be around the kinds of kids who smoke. Is this an example of a filter he isint using? Or is this different?

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Answer by wellbeing
Get away from him. He is not reflecting who you are in life. And no, not all guys cheat, who on earth gave you that idea? Don’t settle for less than what you deserve.

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