My grandmother passed away 1 1/2 months ago, and only 3 out of 5 siblings names were listed on the house, help?

Question by ghost: My grandmother passed away 1 1/2 months ago, and only 3 out of 5 siblings names were listed on the house, help?
I have an uncle who I will call little Napoleon. He is a IV meth user, and a pain pill addict. He withdrew all of my grandmothers money from her bank an hour after she died. Little Napoleon is not cool. He kept me from visiting my grandma the last few years of her life, and the last few days as well, when all I wanted to do was give her a hug. He would call the cops anytime I step in the yard. I once beat him up like 4 years ago, so since then he calls the police on me. It was an automatic eviction where he tried to beat me with a hot frying pan, but I took it from him and told him I don’t need a frying pan to kick his butt. And I hit him a few times. Nothing serious, but nothing baby like either. It took a long way for me to get to that point because I don’t like violence, but I also don’t like a hot frying pan starting to be swung at me.

Now my youngest aunt, and my aunt who is a little slow but very sweet, are not on the lease. My little Napoleon uncle got my grandma to add him. My other uncle is on the lease, and my mom is on the lease. My little Napoleon uncle doesn’t work, it took him a week or two to come off the oxicotin he had been stealing from my grandma. Yes, I did report him in the past for stealing her pills, but she didn’t want anything done about it so I was the one that got a call from “I think” elder abuse. I was told I was the problem, and to not throw stones when you live in glass houses. My mom knows little Napoleons ways, so she called elder abuse and let them know that a lot of what my uncle says is lies. And that a lot of what I say is true. I am not into lying, he is an expect con artist to naive people like myself. But I made sure to distance myself from him for good.

Yesterday he tried to throw out my youngest aunt, her boyfriend and her son and girlfriend. Little Napoleon was picked up by the neck and thrown off the front porch and told to leave. My aunts boyfriend might have been the culprit.

My uncle went over to my good uncles house and whined for him to get together with my mom and have my youngest aunt thrown out. My good uncle said no. My good uncle who is on the lease with my mom and little Napoleon, said that his sister was their when my grandma was alive and paid no rent, and would be paying no rent to my uncle.

My older aunt who lives in the house who is a little slow but sweet, she says she will move out of the house if my aunt has to go. And my uncle Napoleon has been wanting my slow aunt’s disability check. But my youngest aunt asked her to make her her payee, and send her checks to a bank account, not to the house where little Napoleon would steal it and spend it on drugs instead of the bills.

I am staying out of this issue because I don’t want any trouble with the law. What might be some solutions? My youngest aunt is not talking to little Napoleon, and I believe she is mentally stronger than him. A few years ago he beat her in the face pretty bad. But she could use a knife if it had to come to that. I really hope it doesn’t come to that. I don’t want my aunt to catch a case, and I don’t want my little grandma to be looking down at such a scene.

All I have done is given my nice uncle some white sage to burn in the house. He says my bad uncles room is always the coldest. That is a sign of evil in my book. I never heard voices until I started living at my grandmas house.

One more thing, my youngest aunt heard a female voice as plain as day say “thank you for taking care of my babies”. My grandma loved her little dogs, and my aunt believes it was her. She said it scared her and was unwelcome. But I would like to hear my grandma one last time, but I am different than most people, and I try to embrace the spirits. But I’ve rarely heard of seen them. But the few times I have it has really been unexpected and freaky.

Any suggestions for my youngest aunt, or my other grieving family? I think jobs would be a good idea. But I am mentally disabled so I am not one to talk. Although I am furthering my education, and trying to keep my mothers house clean for her. With my grandmas death I’ve felt shame, and a feeling that I need to be sure and love my mom every minute she is around, and help her. I don’t want her to ever have to feel sorry for me, or take care of me. I pay rent, and I do love her.

What can my family at my grandmas house do that is not violent?
Dissapointed answers, in fact the third answer beraded me and refused to answer. And another questioned my mental illness.

Best answer:

Answer by Lesley M
Move out and leave each other alone. All must be independent and peaceful. And everyone should be paying rent somewhere- noone should live for free because it causes fights like this.

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