Help with heroin addict husband Please Help!?
Question by Ashley: Help with heroin addict husband Please Help!?
My husband of 5 years is addicted to heroin right now. This summer like 2 days after I had our 4th child he finally admitted to me that he was addicted and had been doing it for about 3 months. He was up to 2-3 bags a day. He snorts it he doesnt shoot it up. Well I forgave him and we did an at home detox where he waited til a thursday to quit and then just stayed home til monday and went thru some pretty bad withdrawal. I helped him thru it I was by his side. He admitted it to about every body important to us and we all thought after the detox he was better. About two months later he lost his job (not anything to do with the heroin) He had worked there seven years. I started suspecting him doing it a few days later but thought no way he isnt on that again. Well a bunch of stuff happend and I’ll keep it short he admitted to me two days ago that he is on it again and has been for about a month and a half now. About 2 bags a day. I’m so mad,scared, frustrated you name it and I’m it. He says he wants to detox at home again this weekend (so he dont lose his new job)and then hes going to go to counseling with a local pastor to help him stay off of it. I want to leave with my children so bad cause I am so mad at him. We about lost our house and everything because of it but then again I dont want to leave because I love him and I know hell just get so much worse and my kids need their old dad back. I feel like I’m stuck in a prison that I cant break out of this is ruining our lives and destroying our family I just want him to get better and everything go back to normal. I didnt think this happend to people like us this is stuff you see in movies and hear about on tv not stuff that happens to happily married couples with children and good jobs and a nice home.Or so I thought. Please if anybody can help me. What is the chances that he will quit for good. He says rehab would help but he cant stay there because he would lose his job and we cant afford that right now. What is the success rate of heroin recovery. Please only experienced serious answers!How do I help him?
By the way unlike jaded said below we did have a loving home and I have done everything I could to be a loving wife and take care of the kids and him. I dont know how this happend something like this has never happend in our 5 years. Thats why I’m so dang confused. And to let you know I actually have 3 children my second child was a little girl that passed away ( So jaded you can keep your mouth shut when you dont even know why I’ve had my children so close.)I love my children they are my life.And I know my husband does too!
Best answer:
Answer by thewifey
does his job offer any type of service? can you talk to his doctor to find out if he can help any. you should stay by his side, and help him through these times. just remember, it is an ADDICTION, not a choice. he needs pprofessional help, whatever you can get him. keep him away from his friends and YOU need to control the money so you can see what he is spending. tell him it’s for his own good and if he wants you and the kids to stay and if he really loves you and wants to get clean, he will do it. good luck, this must be a really tough time for you two. you will get through it.
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