One of my sisters has been an alcoholic/drug addict for years. She’s known for blaming all her problems on?
anyone other than herself, and is very unappreciative when people help her. she had been clean from alcohol and drugs for about 6 months and was getting along with everyone in the family, but she’s drinknig again for over a year. She also has serious anger issues.
I hadn’t seen her for 11 years, and didn’t care to, I had seen her abuse her kids, tell my mother she didn’t care if my mother lived or died (as my mother cried uncontrolllably) wihtout batting an eyelash. When she is upset, though, she’ll cry and cry and say how nobody helps her…
She ‘s 6 years older than me, she’s almost 40 now and is still blaming her drug addiction on how she was treated by our family…she mostly blames it all on our mother b/c my mother wan’t there for her.
She also lost all 5 of her kids b/c she was a crystal meth addict.
My mother has sent her over 1000 dollars over the past few years to help her with rent, etc. My mother also sent her baby cribs, strollers, etc., over the past 8 years when she gave birth to her kids (100s of miles away from my mother).My sister never thanked my mother for any of this.
My mother works FT…she’s in her 70s, she’s worked hard all her life, most of the time as a single mother. she had 7 kids, and has struggled for years. She also had health issues over the years, while working FT,. as a single mother. About 10 years ago, she was finally in a good financial situation (b/c she got a good-paying job and low income housing) , after living in poverty for decades. She never misses a day of work, is never late.
My question is, should my mother feel obligated to visit my sister when she is in the area where my sister lives? (they’re about a 2 hour drive from eachother). My mother visits the area about once every 2 years…My sister has never made the dirve to visit my mother.
My sister freaked out (yelling and screaming) when she found out my mother was in the area recently and didn’t visit her….
I just want to know outside opinions…should my mother make an effort to see my sister, her daughter, when she’s in the area, since they haven’t seen eachother for 2 years….?
Or does all the stuff i mentioned above give my mother reason not to visit her daughter?
P.S. A couple months ago, b/f my mother’s visit, my sister called my mother up, drunk, yelling at her for being a really bad mother.
I hadn’t seen her for 11 years, and didn’t care to, I had seen her abuse her kids, tell my mother she didn’t care if my mother lived or died (as my mother cried uncontrolllably) wihtout batting an eyelash. When she is upset, though, she’ll cry and cry and say how nobody helps her…
She ‘s 6 years older than me, she’s almost 40 now and is still blaming her drug addiction on how she was treated by our family…she mostly blames it all on our mother b/c my mother wan’t there for her.
She also lost all 5 of her kids b/c she was a crystal meth addict.
My mother has sent her over 1000 dollars over the past few years to help her with rent, etc. My mother also sent her baby cribs, strollers, etc., over the past 8 years when she gave birth to her kids (100s of miles away from my mother).My sister never thanked my mother for any of this.
My mother works FT…she’s in her 70s, she’s worked hard all her life, most of the time as a single mother. she had 7 kids, and has struggled for years. She also had health issues over the years, while working FT,. as a single mother. About 10 years ago, she was finally in a good financial situation (b/c she got a good-paying job and low income housing) , after living in poverty for decades. She never misses a day of work, is never late.
My question is, should my mother feel obligated to visit my sister when she is in the area where my sister lives? (they’re about a 2 hour drive from eachother). My mother visits the area about once every 2 years…My sister has never made the dirve to visit my mother.
My sister freaked out (yelling and screaming) when she found out my mother was in the area recently and didn’t visit her….
I just want to know outside opinions…should my mother make an effort to see my sister, her daughter, when she’s in the area, since they haven’t seen eachother for 2 years….?
Or does all the stuff i mentioned above give my mother reason not to visit her daughter?
P.S. A couple months ago, b/f my mother’s visit, my sister called my mother up, drunk, yelling at her for being a really bad mother.