I want my husband to get full custody and limited visitation?

Question by Lulu: I want my husband to get full custody and limited visitation?
When my husband and I started dating his son was still an infant. He kicked his ex girfriend out finally because she was abusive. Punching him in the faace over and over until he bled from his eyes and one night it was so bad he almost died. She was really bad with cocaine, crack and smoking weed so he just said this is not the environment our son needs and I honestly don’t even love you enough to make something like this work. Unfortunately for me this situation did not get any better. In the last almost 4 years I have had to deal with her being homeless, finding her a place to stay, making sure that I tucked in her son every night and told him that I loved him and mommy loved him too just so he wouldn’t wonder why mommy hadn’t called or came to get him in three weeks, I’ve delt with her crazy screaming fights over my husband trying to look out for the best interests of his child. She is honestly completely insane and has many many many mental problems. She has a very long history of abuse with her family and witnessed her father kill her mother so it’s understandable that she would be a little off balance, but I have taken up her slack and raised her child to what he is. We have custody and when she is stable enough we trade him off every other week so she gets him an equal time, but she is barely ever stable enough to do this. She just called today to get him for the weekend because she said she just got a new apartment. This will be her 6th home in 4 months and it’s beginning to confuse my step son. He will go by his old homes and think she still lives there and want to see her, or go to her old jobs and think she still works there and cry until we go in so he can see she isn’t there. She hasn’t been able to keep a steady living environment because she is hooked on drugs so bad she can’t keep a job. She is about to probably go to jail for shopliffting fromher last job. She says she doesn’t do drugs around her son and that when she has him he is safe and happy. I honestly don’t believe it. i have had to buy groceries for her before because she couldn’t feed him. Or go out and buy clothes for him just so she would have something for him to wear. I’m just honestly getting tired of it all. my husband wants his son to have his mother because he never really had his and mine was absent for a very long time. but this environment is not good for him at all. I want my husband to make it so she has to have special visitation rights until we know that she is stable enough to care for him and I’m not sure how to go about saying this to him. He’s afraid she will take off with his son and honestly he is probably right and she would try. I just am at a loss as to what to do.
The only thing on her record is a possession charge from two years ago and then the most recent shopliffting so proving all of this to a judge would require some witnesses. it’s possible but my husband and I both have such a hard time with the idea of dragging such a little boy through this. I feel bad to say it but I do hope she goes to jail for shopliffting and hopefully it straightens her out.

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Answer by ↑ ♥ ↑ ♥ ↑ ɱч ɓęɑưƭɨḟưʅ ɓɑɓч
speak to a lwayer, if it was me i wouldnt want my child around that sort of behaviour, i would be thinking, is she going to do to my child what she done to me. given her history, id says things would go in his favour, but if she must see his son, if i were him i would absolutely insist on visits supervised by a court official, or social worker or someone like that.

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