About our Latest Adoption

Published May 21, 2010

Rosa Isabell and Mercedes Renea came home 6-19-06 adoption final 10-7-08

As we joyously and proudly celebrate the new additions to our family, we take a moment to reflect. Our journey has been long and sometimes trying. Even as grandparents 50 and 53 years old we know our girls are where they belong. They are home.

As we celebrate we remember the hundreds of thousands of children who remain in foster care tonight. Many of them will age out without ever knowing the security of a “forever family”. Each of them is as deserving as our beautiful daughters. Their only sin was being born to parents unable to parent. They are all races, all ages, all our children. They belong to all of us, and we are all responsible for these precious kids.

If you have ever considered fostering, or adopting now is the time! Meth is destroying families, addicting our newborns, and making it unsafe for a child to even be held by a user. We have had 27 foster placements in the past 2 years and only one of our kids has not come from a meth environment. Most of our children have been under 5 years old, healthy and on track for their age. Some have delays due to drug exposure, many are delayed from neglect. Just being hugged and held advances kids so quickly. There will never be enough said about what stability does for a child. Tantrums are a real issue with kids in their 3rd, 4th, 5th, or 10th placement. It amazes us how well these kids really do. Imagine that strangers came into your home in the middle of the night and told you you had to go with them, take a couple of outfits, no other personal items. You could not see your parents, children, or spouse, and you must live with even more strangers. How well would you do? I don’t think adults would do as well as these kids. Even brothers and sisters are put in separate homes to find safe placements. We are licensed for four children, but never have four openings. We get a call anytime of the day or night. We never ask the race or sex of a child and we don’t say no.

I don’t think the general population understands that you do not have to be wealthy to adopt our kids in foster care. You can be single, you can rent or own your home, you can be gay, you can be well over 40, you pay no adoption costs, there are adoption subsidies or income to help provide for the childrens care, there is medical, dental, and eye care insurance included. You can request an age, sex, sibling group, or race. On the issue of race I would like to say we are a white couple with two black and two Mexican children. To us this is an issue only in keeping each of them educated on their heritage. However adopting inter racially does require deep soul searching. We just truly do not care what other people think, and at times this includes family members. If you can not be totally at ease with these issues certain races are not for your family. THAT IS 100% OKAY. Adoption is all about the perfect fit for everyone involved.

I wish that we could show pictures of the children we have had. There were the two blond blue eyed little girls newborn and 2, the wonderful Hispanic boys 3 and 4 who were sooo cute and smart, the 2 yr. old boy who was so affectionate and so sad, the newborn boy who was the perfect baby, the 11 yr old girl who tried to be so tough but was very sweet under it all, the 17 yr old girl who aged out a lost soul after years in the system, the 4 yr old girl who went to a very loving adoption placement, the newborn who went to a wonderful adoption placement who adopted 3 newborn baby boys in 2 yrs, they came in wanting to adopt a girl and are so blessed and pleased. Our children who came to us so late in life when we were not an adoption home any longer. I held Rosa the first time when she was just 2 hours old. Mercedes a shy and frightened two year old that just couldn’t have been any cuter. The list goes on and on.

We have adopted through a wonderful agency in Tulsa Oklahoma. The Adoption Center of NE Oklahoma. They place sibbling groups, special needs children, infants, and many many black children. We have adopted through protective services or CPS in Arizona where we are foster parents. We were licensed to foster to adopt through The Childrens Home Society in North Carolina I know that Jefferson County Mo. has photo listings and great information about the children free and clear right now. We would ask anyone who has worked with other great agencies to please give the agencies name and information, and to tell your story, knowing that there are trying issues with adoption. Please help us help our nations most precious, OUR children!

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About our Latest Adoption

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