I’m afraid of my father and I don’t know how to stand up to it… Help please…?
Question by Equan: I’m afraid of my father and I don’t know how to stand up to it… Help please…?
I’m scared of my dad, and I have been scared of him since I was little. He used to abuse me when I was six to about eleven. He settled down a bit as I got older, and because of the way my dad treated me, it made me feel uncomfortable speaking to others since I never could speak to him without feeling scared on the inside. My mother was really the only person I could count on, but she knows what he does, and the sad thing is, she used to laugh while it was happening. My sister knows what I go through, and because of her, I feel better about my life. Though I was young, my father always expected me to be so good at everything. Even though I was above grade level, it seemed as if he expected more from me. He has a short temper and gets angry at me and my sister all of the time. The only thing is, it’s mainly me he gets angry at, not my sister. He would “help” me with homework at times, and would ask me a question about a math problem I’ve just learned, but whenever I don’t respond quick enough, he’d yell really loud and demand an answer, making me feel so afraid and not knowing what to say. He’d get louder and I would have no choice but to take a good guess, but when I get the problem wrong, he’d slap me really hard until I could feel blood coming out my mouth. He would do it so often that at one point of time, it became a habit to him, and he’d slap me like it was just an everyday thing. He did this for years. Not only did I have to deal with him, but I also didn’t have any friends, and I felt so horrible for a long time. Every day I’d come home and just say the day was fine, but my sister was the only person who knew what I had to deal with. My sister was, and is my only friend to this day. My father would always curse at me and call me names.. anything to make me feel bad about myself. When I was young, I had low self esteem because of my father. He’d make me cry and would say stuff like “Stop feeling sorry for yourself” or “Quit being a baby” though… I was pretty much still a baby.My dad stopped hurting me as much as he used to when my sister finally told my mom we both were a little scared of him, when she really wasn’t. I was the one who asked her to ask my mom because I was too afraid of what would have happened. So my mother talked to my father, and apparently, my father had no Idea I was afraid of him so he stood there and said, “They aren’t scared of me…” And I remember the same look on his face… he looked as if he was a bit angry and very confused. He stared directly at me, and I felt very scared. He didn’t slap me as much as he used to, yet he still would push, hit, or punch me somewhere. He kicked me only one time when I was very little, but I ran away and hid behind my mothers back. My mom actually laughed when that happened, and I guess my dad got a bit mad at her too, so she stopped. My sister doesn’t understand how lucky she is compared to me… She isn’t even a little scared of my father… She has never been hurt by him in any kind of way, and my mother cares so much about her and so little about me… at least that is how I see it. My sister gets everything she wants and doesn’t do an ounce of work for it. My father makes me work and do jobs not even most grown men would do, and I barely get anything. I have to actually count on my sister to get something for me. Since I was 8 I had to do jobs with my father and not just “take out the garbage” kind of jobs, I mean real work. Like waking up at 5 in the morning and heading over to some ladies house in order to move all of her stuff out and then paint the entire house. We don’t get home until about 12:30 at night. Not to mention that is how I spend summer break every break, and I don’t even get paid for it, yet he is getting enough money to at least share with me. I have to do this for weeks straight and do chores around the house while my sister is watching Spongebob. I’m only 13… It’s not like I can talk to my father about this, because whenever I see him, I feel so afraid and don’t know what to do around him. When he calls my name, no matter how far away I try to get from him, I get so afraid and come running to him, hoping I don’t get punished for not coming right away. He abuses his power as a father and it isn’t fair… The thing I don’t understand is the fact he acts so different around others… he acts like me and him are father and son buddies… he acts like me and him are the kind of friends we should actually be, instead of this phony crap. I just need help… just help me.. I have thought about suiciding more than once… I have attempted twice in my life… I didn’t tell anyone, not even my sister. There is so much more I have to say but… everything is just stuffed in one big pile… I don’t know where to start.
I would call for child support but I still love my father.. though he has done many horrible things to me in the past… If he is gone.. this family can’t ever hold up.. the things he did and still do are hurtful but… I don’t know what I can do… I don’t know what I should do.. It would be easy for you to tell me to call for child support… but if you were in my shoes… it would be much harder then ever… I don’t know exactly how to explain how I feel about calling for child support but it won’t feel good. If leave it the way it is, I will be hurt. But if I do something about it.. I will still be hurt just as much… not only that but, my mom will be hurt, the people that he has done “good” things for will be hurt, and possibly my sister will be hurt since he has never laid a finger on her
Best answer:
Answer by God Loves You
here are some tips
1)say dad why are you doing this to me im your son your supposed to love me and care about me and protect me not abuse me.
2) call the cops if you need to
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