At what point is someone addicted to poker?
Question by Heather: At what point is someone addicted to poker?
My boyfriend of almost 2 years has loved the game of poker since before I ever met him. At first, I thought it was interesting and his hobby and supported him. He is quite good however, everyone has their bad days. We live together and split all the bills. I’m taking a full load of classes at a university and working as a server. He is also working as a server, but taking only 2 courses at the local comm. college. The past couple of months have been horrible with regard to money. I am always bringing in a steady amount and can always cover my bills. He, on the other hand is not. I am having to pay his part of all the bills and my savings account has dwindled away very fast and it scares me. I fill his gas tank up, I pay for his food, anything he needs etc. I feel like his damn mother. He literally is doing so bad that his account is in the negatives. He told me his restaurant was just slow, and he was always being sent home (due to over staffing). While the being sent home part is true, I do not believe they are slow. I opened up his bank statement yesterday and to my surprise and utter shock, saw that he in fact had over $ 4,000 as of last month! There where a bunch of withdrawals that added up to a few thousand dollars. And they were all within like 4 days. Apparently he had lied to me about how much money he had because he had lost it all to playing poker!!!! He also lied to me and said he gave his mother $ 1,500. I contacted her to find out the truth. I feel like a fool and am so angry that he blew all that money! He currently owes me a little over $ 3,000. What on earth was he thinking!?!? He has NEVER lied to me before and I feel like I don’t even know who he is anymore. It is so not like him to show these kinds of colors. He hasn’t played poker in almost a month. I don’t really want to break up. But I don’t know how to trust him again. He caused me so much stress and anxiety about money and to know he actually had it and blew it is just mind boggling. Any advice on what the hell a girl should do? I moved across the US for this guy. I have no one here to “help” me out with a place to stay. I’m stuck here until I graduate in May ’13. Like I said, I’m willing to work it out with him. Just need some amo going in to this.
Perhaps I should clarify the bill situation. I understand the role of an enabler and I certainly do not want to be one. However, when he cannot pay his half of rent I am obviously going to because I do not want to be evicted or have my father penalized (he co-signed). The same thing goes for our electric bill that we split. I can’t NOT have electricity, so I am going to pay it. This is a huge dilemma for me because I feel like I am enabling him, BUT I have to pay bills that directly affect me. I do not pay his personal bills, though. I really appreciate all the feedback. I have a lot of decisions to make in the near future.
Best answer:
Answer by masterninja438
Looks like h’es addicted.
Addiction varies from person to person really.
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