I think my mom is a borderline personality disorder mother.?
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I think my mother is a borderline mother. She has mood swings, and when she gets angry she EXPLODES and says “i will send you to your father”, like it’s a punishment! I say yes, and then she goes quiet. and a few hours later she acts as if the fight didn’t happen, and she NEVER accepts she was wrong. Usually, she is always wrong in the fights, and i’m HONESTLY saying that. When i get in a fight with her, she goes to my stepdad and tells him some twisted story to make him think i’m bad. She used to physically abuse me uptil last summer (whenever she got angry), she calls me a little “b” word sometimes, last summer she forced me out of her car onto the street just because she was angry over something. I had to walk 3 miles to a close school- she dumped me in a rural are full of farms! she has forced me out of the car many times, one time she drove right over my foot. She threatens to hurt me, blah blah. She thinks she is some kind of GODDESS and rules the world, and that “im under her roof, so I have no say”. She NEEDS to be angry over SOMETHING. it’s like food to her. She can’t go a day without fighting over something. And after a few hours, she literally just FORGETS what happens, and expects me to forget it to. When she sees i haven’t forgotten it, she explodes again. And then acts nice AGAIN; and the cycle goes on. Many times, she “loses” something that she doesn’t even bother looking for, and blames it on me. For example, yesterday, she gave me her debit card to buy a bagel from the bagel place. I specifically remember handing the card back to her. After a few hours, she opened up her wallet and looked for LITERALLY ONE SECOND and said. “NO! I LOST MY DEBIT CARD! YOUUUU LOST MY DEBIT CARD! IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT” and then she looks for another second, and says “oh, it’s right behind this one.” and yet she acts as if that didn’t happen. She doesn’t even apologize. Because my mother……she can’t accept her mistakes.
She’s only ever nice to me when she WANTS something from me. When she has a headache, or something, she overexaggerates and says “i have a tumor. take care of me. im going to die” etc…she tries to make me feel guilty. I feel like I am her mother. Please help. Is this BPD? And what can I do?
Currently, my dad lives in the US, I’m in Canada. I want to live with him, and he says yes. BUT. it’s my mom. what can i do to make her let me go? I’m trying to act depressed and avoid her these days. I don’t know if it will work. But my stepdad talked to me last night about if I would be happy if I moved with my dad.. But my mom keeps telling me “oh, you’re not normal. you’re a horrible child. i’m taking you to a psychiatrist. you need help” etc.
I feel like everything is my fault. My mom puts so much weight on my shoulders and I don’t know what to do anymore. 🙁
Things i’ve tried to do: ignore her, fight back, be silent, use logic, do NOTHING.
but none of those work. Somehow, i am always the problem to her.
I mean don’t get me wrong, sometimes she’s very nice to me, and i’m extremely nice back!
but when one little thing goes wrong, such as misplacing her car keys, she blames it on ME.
Best answer:
Answer by Jay
LOL, kk… well since ur probably like 13-15.. u cant move out.. since ur step-dad is whipped by ur mom.. he’s no help.
— Sit down and confront her, tell her that certain things are bothering u. The 1 thing that makes any relationship fail is not having enough communication. If she refuses to listen then… you may just have to deal until 18.
— If my mom pulled that crap, I’d either attempt putting her in her place over the matter. But I never had to deal with a double team situation… the step-dad could be an obstacle.
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