Girlfriend is Sick – Need Advice?

Question by Mandrayk: Girlfriend is Sick – Need Advice?
This may not be the best forum but I need help. I received an email last night from my girlfriend saying something happened this week that brought back issues from her past and now she is emotionally unwell. She said she can’t be a girlfriend right now until she goes through counseling to help her deal with her issue(s). She won’t tell me or her family (and she’s really close with her sisters) what the issue is. The only thing I can think of is some sort of abuse when she was growing up.

I need someone to talk to about this, or if you know of someone I can talk or email the details to I would greatly appreciate it. I want to help her but I can’t if she won’t let me in. We were so happy together until this random email she sent and now it’s tearing me up that she can’t share it with me, like she has done with everything else in her life. I need help “decoding” what she wrote to me to help me figure out if/how I can help her.

Thanks for reading this

Best answer:

Answer by Patti
Tell her you would love to help her if she would trust you and that you will not judge her for whatever she tells you. Don’t pressure her to tell, just say you will be there when she is ready to talk about it and that you care for her. Something such as sexual abuse or rape is very painful and shameful, especially if it was a family member who was abuser. Perhaps that is why she can’t even tell her sisters.

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