Seeing friend’s ex boyfriend?

Question by Anon: Seeing friend’s ex boyfriend?
I’m in college and for the past few weeks my best friend’s ex, who she hasn’t seen since prom/spring/when they broke up, has been contacting me and coming down to visit and we’ve been having..relations. What makes this situation a little different is that sometime during the course of their (long) relationship, my friend actually agreed to let him sleep with me. I don’t know, now that I think about it it’s kind of unusual but please try to withhold your judgement. She is/was my best friend and we shared everything and I have never loved any other human being more than her. But she treated this boy like absolute shit, and he already has a host of psychological problems and a long term addiction to hard drugs. I don’t know if it’s any justification, but I treat him well and with respect and put up with his moodiness/substance abuse because I care about him so I wonder if I deserve to continue seeing him. Telling my friend is out of the question however as she has self-esteem issues as well and to learn about this would only cause her a great deal of pain. Am I doing the right thing? Am I just being stupid? This isn;t a good situation at all..
I also have a strong desire to heal him and make him better, even though I know I can’t

Best answer:

Answer by Gwen
This situation is not going to be easy to deal with.

My friends and I have dated the same guys before. We know when it’s not ok to date a particular guy though. I would NEVER date someone she confessed to loving nor would she do that to me.

If your friend was with him over a period of time, you are probably going to have more issues than you thought. If this guy was just someone she was banging and just went to prom together.. you may be ok. Good luck.. things like this can make or break a friendship.

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