I am still angry over ex’s treatment and divorce?

Question by melissa_lost: I am still angry over ex’s treatment and divorce?
I have been divorced for almost 10 years now, but am still very angry. I have to deal with him over kids and not paying. He was doing drugs (cocaine) when we divorced and can’t remember things very clearly and see’s things completely different about the divorce. He doesn’t even remember I had to get a restraining order to protect me and my kids. He says it was only for me, but I have papers. How do I get over this.
I haven’t dated and I’ve never been with another man except for him. We were married 11 years (9 which were really good). I am now very very self conscious and shy because he always called me fat and no good (the last 2 yrs of marriage). I went back to schoold and got my Masters, but am scared to be in another relationship. But how do I get over the anger and move on??

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Answer by Pat
Its up to you to forget about, enjoy life, dont date if youre afraid, no rush. Your husband is a jerk, but he is no longer a part of your life, but will just be a memory. My parents were married for 13 years (6 which were good), and dad deserted the family. It took 2 years for my mom to forget about him. but now she is ok, she beautified herself (dad often insulted her too), now she is in a steady relationship, and dad, well…whatever turns him on. I understand what you are going through, an 11 year marriage is pretty hard to get over with, but you will in time.

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