Why wont he call me?
Question by Chris: Why wont he call me?
I’ve been sort of a sugardaddy to a 17-year-old I have fallen for hard. We were never a couple or anything serious. Unfortunately, he got taken into foster care on June 23rd because his mom is an addict. He also uses coke/weed casually.
He’s bi-polar and has ADD. He is also a high school drop out with no drivers license or car. His mom is not married and he has no relatives to take care of him. He has a lot of strikes against him.
He claims he “cant call me” and “cant hang out with me” until he’s out of foster care on sept 19 (3 months total without seeing him); yet i know for a fact he hangs out with other friends who are “his age.”
He posted a myspace bulletin stating “im free for the day so hit me up”.
I dont understand why he just couldnt call me from his foster home.
it sounds like hes in some kind of 12-step, substance abuse, drug-rehab program. He says on his myspace that his foster home is nicer than the home he came from.
Anyway, 2 days ago he responds to my email and says “he misses me and cant wait to hang out again AFTER foster care” and in big capital letters he ends his email again with “I MISS YOU.”
Then he posted a bulletin on his myspace 10 minutes later saying he got a new job at mcdonalds and makes sure to point out the exact location because there are many mcdonalds in the area.
So Im thinking he posted the exact location of where he works for a reason??
We live 1hr 15 minutes away from each other.
I drove all that way, unannounced, to visit the mcdonalds and he completely ignores me.
He walks in the back room and whispers something to another employee who immediately stares at me with that deer-in-the-headlights look, so obviously he said something unpleasant about me like “get me away from that guy”.
I dont understand that 2 days ago he says he MISSES ME and then when i visit him he completely ignores me… and is uncomfortable.
In his email from 2 days ago he says he’s no longer single and “kinda-sorta” dating another person (his age). This is the same person who he allows to see him (and call him) in foster care.
He claims his new bf wont mind ‘our’ relationship.
The bottom line is when I set out to drive to see him at mcdonalds I was thinking: “What’s the worse that could happen?
Well, being ignored by someone you care about really hurts.
Should I apologize for visitng him (he posted the location and made sure we knew it) or what?
Do you think he still wants to be friends (after ignoring me the way he did at work) when he gets out of foster care September 19th , which is 5 weeks ?
Best answer:
Answer by Louis L
Leave the guy hes clearly using you and being an åsshole about it too. BTW how old are you?
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