Wife asks for help with teenager,but won’t defend me.?
Question by Can’t win for taking up.: Wife asks for help with teenager,but won’t defend me.?
My wife and I have a teenage son (16) .
He’s a pretty good kid for most parts,but loves to tease his younger brother (a lot).
Tonight as usual he was upstairs with his Mom and younger brother,I was downstairs working on a project,and all heck broke loose.
So my wife started yelling for me to please come upstairs and make him (oldest son) quit.
I go upstairs and the youngest son is crying (13) and the oldest son has him in a headlock.Not really being mean,but being a pain in the butt to his brother.
My wife keeps asking me to have them stop fighting,so I break them up,and as in most cases he starts yelling at me when I tell him I’m going to ground him from the t.v. .
Well the yelling keeps getting louder,and the language,though not obscene,turns ugly with him telling me he hates me,he don’t love me,blah,blah,blah,(this is what always happens) then he slams his door so hard he knocks it off one henge !
So I yell at my wife,who as always,is just standing there not defending me,”why didn’t you help ?”
So he comes back out telling me I’m NOT taking the t..v. away,starts kicking the banister in the kitchen and I smack him on his shoulder,and yes out of anger.
Now my wife,my oldest son,and even the youngest whom I was asked to come and help,aren’t speaking to me,and say I’m the worst person in the world !?
Am I wrong for felling a little used here ?I mean this is what happens every time I try and defend or help my wife out.She always thinks I over react,and am an animal.Maybe the smack was bad,but when you tell him your grounding him from something,this is always what happens,and I’m the bad guy when all the dust is gone.
Gee,I think I’m going to give up and leave !
Folks sorry for the long post,but I can’t win for defending.
Best answer:
Answer by Ronald
no youre not in the wrong at all but your wife is, if your oldest son is such a huge problem put him on a supervision program at your local county probation department, that will make him straighten out real fast, sounds like you and the mrs. could do with some marriage counseling too
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