Does this not show why adoption is wrong?

Question by M: Does this not show why adoption is wrong?
This was taken from a adopters blog:
“Yep. I am a bad mother. I regret ever adopting my older two kids. They are soooo hard to raise and they came withsooooo many problems. They are emotionally unstable, they lie, steal, manipulate, everything ALL DAY EVERYDAY and parenting them brings me no joy what-so-ever. I always caution people against adopting older kids from foster care unless they are older and finished with child rearing and can focus on a loveless relationship and have the time and energy to run their house like a prison. We were lied to about our kids and not given their files until AFTER their adoption was final. I was so stupid because I thought a loving home and stability would “help” these kids. WRONG. We have had them for 4 years (got them at ages 5 and 6) and they only get better at lying. We just found out today that our now 10 year old has been stealing from us. She is the one everything thinks is so sweet and innocent but they don’t know her. So today Andi stole $ 20 from us to buy a little thumb sized stuffed animal from a girl at school. Nice. We live penny to penny and yet she feels it’s ok to do this. I noticed money missing and I was yelling at my husband all day telling him that he must have taken it because I didn’t and we weren’t going to have enough money to get by until Friday when he gets paid. Then, the kids came home from school and Miguel told me Andi found a $ 20 bill in the middle of a bush on the way to school this morning. After interrogation, he admitted what she did and also gave her up about stealing things from the kids at school then SELLING THEM to other people. Great. I am the mother of a 10 year old slanger in the 5 th grade. Oh so proud. NOTHING we do gets to them. No punishments, no rewards, NOTHING drives them to be better people. That’s part of RAD. (Reactive Attachment Disorder) No conscience. I feel like shit because I imagine all the time that something happens that will send them back to their birth mom and how great life would be. From sun up to sun down I have to deal with all their crap. Calls from the school about theft, lying, trying to hurt our animals, last night I became overwhelmed and binged. I felt like such a failure because I turned to the only way to cope I know how. I wanted the world to stop for a moment and when I binge it does. For me, it is not our fault they are this way. We did not abuse or neglect them. Their birth mom did and some of their foster parents but we are left cleaning up the crap forever. Where is the joy? I try soooo hard to give them a normal life but it’s like they don’t want to accept that. All the RAD specialists say there is nothing we can do but try to “condition” them to do the right thing by habit but not because they know it’s the right thing. Since they were neglected so bad during their formative years before 3, their brains didn’t form naturally in that way and they are incapable of ever bonding or feeling empathy. I guess the criminal part of their brains developed just fine because they are great at all that. You would NEVER know it if you met them. they are MASTERS at putting on a fake front. EVERYONE is always telling me how good they are at church and school until stiff comes up missing… Give them a while and they will start to show their true colors. I feel soooo guilty thinking the things I do because I know it is not their fault for what happened to them to make them this way, but I resent being lied to by the state of California and now I am “stuck” with this situation. Everyday this is my existence. I am extra grateful for my other two kids because at least I get the good with the bad. I get to know what it’s like to have a child of mine love me and feel empathy for others. Yes, the kids are in therapy and s ee the therapist at school. I did get a notice from the school that the problems they have are far beyond what they deal with. Duh. Sometimes I find myself looking forward to when they are 12 and we can put them in a boot camp or group home. I look forward to peace. I look forward to some normalcy. That is, if they make it to 12 without going to Juvenal hall from finally stealing from the wrong person or place. Then i feel guilty for thinking those things. Thanks for listening to my vent. I don’t talk about this much because it is so embarrassing, but it is my reality. No judgements please. Unless you have a kid with RAD, you would not understand”
For Jackie B heres the link
It is worst then what I posted, she has their pictures up.
http://74.125.113.132/search?q=cache:ygXCKTqWrdcJ:www.wellsphere.com/weight-loss-article/nut-job/810361+weight-loss-article/nut-job/810361&cd=3&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us
And for the first poster I will respond to you after you read the blog

Best answer:

Answer by AnnaBelle
Haven’t you (and your alter-ego, of course), done enough ranting for one evening?

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