should i stay or should i go?
Question by pantsoo: should i stay or should i go?
My bf and I love each other very much. That is the first thing. The second, yet more important thing you should know is that I am nearly 5 months pregnant.
Now a brief summary.
We met through friends, both new to the city and immediately hit it off. We fell in love fast. Really fast. But it never felt like infatuation or “puppy love”.. Just as though we had both met our missing part. Shortly after we started dating, we moved in together. We dealt with both the normal dramas of moving in with a bf/gf as well as his alcohol addiction at the time. He treated me horribly when he drank. It got so bad that he was spending up to 600 a week on getting drunk, leaving us sleeping on a mattress on the floor with barely any groceries. Shortly after that, we lost our apt (due to him blowing our rent). I was not working at the time as he had wanted me to be able to “do as I pleased at his expense). I never asked him for money or complained when we ate ramen noodles and Kraft dinner often for 2 meals a day. But that’s not to say we didn’t have great times together. We had some hilarious memories in that old place and I think it made us both think and feel like all we really needed was each other to be happy. Before I continue to the here and now, i’ll give you a bit of background info.
He is a former … let’s say “bad boy” who had no problems making almost 25 grand in a months time. His mom was an alcoholic and he never knew his dad but he later found out the old man died of an OD. Apparently the guy was a nut. In fact, he tried to kill my bf’s mom by slitting her throat.. While she was pregnant!!! My bf has been through a lot but he’s a genuine guy with a big heart who would jump off a bridge before he let anyone hurt me.
Now about me, my parents are wealthy. Divorced. Remarried. But above all, FIERCELY about independence. Since the age of 13, I’ve been hoarded with adult responsibility and I’ve never stopped thanking them for it!
Back to the story.
So we lost everything.
And had to move into… A couples shelter. That was 3 months ago. We’ve tried to save up money and move out but whenever he gets it, he blows it. He’s been awful to me lately. Calling me every single name and even putting his hands on me. (not enough to injure me but still!!!) I constantly remind him that we have a baby now (by the way, he’s over the moon about that. He’s SO excited!) but although I know he’s thrilled, its as though he can only see the here and now. We always fight. Then fix things. Then fight again but we do love each other and I don’t feel the need to justify that. Some days I just worry that our baby is going to come into this world and we’ll be screwed. Not only as unprepared parents but as homeless parents. He has made some effort, though. He got us a prenatal worker and he’s been looking for places for us. But I just can’t trust him with money. Don’t even get me started on his friends!! Times ticking but I could really use some good advice. Thanks so much guys! God bless!
Best answer:
Answer by bbout
well stay with him..
he loves u and ur having a baby together
but he should probably go to rehab.
save up for that..
or hide the money you make and save up and not let him know about it
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