Should I go back to my husband of 17 yrs?
Question by Hunni: Should I go back to my husband of 17 yrs?
Okay, here goes. My husband and i have been married about 17 yrs. We have 2 children (1 in college, and the other 12). The last 6 yrs have been hell. We relocated to another state, purchased a home complete with a dog. Lovely, right? Wrong! He began having an affair and wouldn’t stop. The woman was blatantly not going to stop until she was ready either. I soon discovered he also had an addiction to porn and cocaine. Eventually, i lost the home and he wound up doing 3 mths in jail. When he was released the kids and I had rented a another beautiful home and I had found a new man as well who helped me tremendously while I was going thru my trials. This man and I have been dating for almost a year now, and from the beginning I told him of my plans to divorce. He never wanted me to divorce for the sake of getting with him because he knows how important of a decision that is. This man is very serious about life and securing finances for the future. He’s a great provider, and is VERY good with handling finances, plus has his own house. I can see us going very far. My ex has gotten himself together and I am seeing the person I originally married, meaning he’s extremely sorry and very sweet. He helps me with anything that I ask of him (if he’s able to) and i think that’s great. Trouble is that he can also be kind of needy (monetarily and he currently has no car). He has a good job, but doesn’t make as much as the new guy, plus he’s not a good with money as the new guy. He’s still in rehab (live-in) until this Sept. and REALLY misses his family. He says he’s madly in love with me again and I don’t know what to do. I am back in college working on a nursing degree, and am looking forward to a bright future. I do have feelings for my husband, of course but I don’t think i’m sexually attracted to him anymore. I don’t even enjoy kissing him. I can’t get enough of the new guy…he ALWAYS tastes soo good! I can see us being a great power-couple because we’re both career-minded, and yes I do love him. The last thing I want to do is hurt him. He sometimes goes into a shell for a few days when I believe he gets impatient with the fact that I’m not divorced yet….he doesn’t speak on it, but his actions lets me know that’s whats going on. I don’t want to risk losing him, but I want to divorce for the right reason too. I know i DON’T want to struggle financially anymore, and I ask myself “is love enough”?
Best answer:
Answer by Forlorn Hope-only 5 suspensions
take the second guy… he treats you with respect… the other is a jerk and a leech!!!
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