How would you deal with this?

Question by micowi: How would you deal with this?
Over the years I was a great parent who raised my son with every opportunity. He got to ski every weekend, He went on fun vacations, we got a sail boat and vacationed on it, he had a good family upbringing. I was a parent who helped my son, my only child, and loved him unconditionally. My son was a trouble maker in school and I stuck up for him up until just recently, which has been over 30 years. I paid off car loans, school loans, court costs, alcohol treatment costs, purchased him a car, bought him a dog, picked up the pieces everytime he ran off, by renting a truck, driving 60 miles loading up what was left of his things and storing them. And that’s just the beginning!
He finally decided it was time to sober up. I was extremely happy for him and he moved into a friend of mine’s home who helped him out while saving enough to rent on his own. I helped him get back on his feet and loaned him my queen bed, a set of my favorite dishes, (never used), a table and chairs and any kind of kitchen things he needed. Since then he started drinking again and the only time he talks to me is to abuse me. Last October my brother had a birthday lunch and our parents called me, as normal, so I would attend. In turn, I called my son and let him know so he could come. My son said that maybe his real dad would like to come. I told him it wasn’t appropriate since its been an estranged 31 years since my divorce and my aging parents wouldn’t like it. He became angry and didn’t show up to the lunch and later informed me that if his real dad and step dad are not invited to my family functions then he isn’t attending. Ever since he’s been an absolute horror of a human being to me. He won’t return my things, is abusive to me when he does talk and has now cut me off of his life. He talks badly about me to others and I am extremely hurt and disgusted.

Best answer:

Answer by blueberry
cut him off completely from your life. he doesn’t deserve any kindness from you and you don’t need any of his B.S. let go

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