How do I make it up to him?

Published January 8, 2011

Question by laura1corinth13: How do I make it up to him?
Okay I was previously in a very awesome loving relationship. There was an incident recently that ended everything though and I am very distraught. My boyfriend left Sunday night to head back to his home, he lives two and a half hours away. After he left I watched a movie and drank a few beers; a short while after that a neighbor and ex boyfriend of mine stopped by to borrow some movies and during that time started to get “aggressive” He wanted to have sex with me. I froze I did not know what to do or say I told him I could not do that and that I didn’t want to several times. What I did not do was forcefully push him away, I don’t know what I was thinking. He did manage to get at least a little bit of what he wanted but finally stopped after about the 5th time I said I didn’t want to do this then he left. After he left I freaked out and felt so used “why didn’t I speak up more”? How could I let someone take advantage of me like that? That is how I felt. To make myself feel better I preceded to drink myself silly which I succeeded in..then I made the mistake of calling my boyfriend.. I tried to tell him about it but I was so plastered I was making no sense at all then his mom called me because she lives only a couple minutes away so she called to see what she could do and I continued to drunkenly prattle on nonsense only half explaining what happened. Well the next day my boyfriend texted me and said that he did not want to speak to me anymore and that I would always have a place in his heart and that I needed to get help.. I was assuming he was referring to my drunken rambling so I said okay, “no more alcohol”..but he still wont speak to me I dont think he will ever forgive me.. How can I fix this???
To add details: I have quit drinking and have no desire to drink at all.

Best answer:

Answer by Penelope
You can’t. You need to get help for your drinking problem. Clean yourself up, and move on.

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