should i give up and move on?
Question by kathy b: should i give up and move on?
my husband is a drug addict. he has been to rehab 2 times in the 6 months. first time he did not really try. second time he wanted to go and seemed to go by everything they said to do. He has good intentions but it seems after a short time he loses sight of whats important is to stay sober and function. i know the crack urges are very hard after 16 years or so of doing it but i feel he makes excuses to go do them. seems he gets a little stressed with life, its an excuse and then begins a whirlwind of lies. i love him dearly and have excepted him but it has cost me dearly. And i really don’t know how much more i can take. i know he is coming down off them now. He assumes I will continue to be there. I don’t want to leave him but he has stolen from me….. his wife…….. and he has broken things, a vehicle, recently before he went to rehab, broke my van window, he has not got a steady job. i feel like i need a partner who wants to try and pull his load. I really do not want anyone else, but an old friend has moved to california, we talked for a couple hours. The only thing is this very dear friend wants to be with me as well. And right now thats a very hard decision. i thought this other man and i would be married but that did not happen. I think that I like the fact that someone still would be there if I were to leave my husband. I guess I need to take one day at a time. One minute at a time. And pray my husband will find the strength to beat the drugs. I do love him, I have been through alot with him. If you were me, would you stay with this man, other than the drugs, when he is not on them he is all i can ask for. I just fear him when he gets on the drugs.
thanks for all the answers so far…. here is some additional details. The other man is not really part of this. I do not lust for him. My husband and I have been together for 4 yrs. We have been married 1 1/2 yrs. We have no children together. He cannot have any, I am much older than he is. I also have a job that I have been with 11 yrs. He told me last night I would be better off without him and that he did not want to live life anymore. He could not beat the addiction. I told him this. Its like my emotions and me learning to control them. He has the tools after rehab to know how to curb the addiction if he truly wants to. but he has reach down inside himself to find out what he really wants. I love him and I want him to be happy. I know he loves me but he loves crack more.
Best answer:
Answer by Elliott L
DONT EVER stay with anyone that can make you afraid like that.. breaking your property and stealing from his wife? Crack is something you cant recover from, you might have heard these stories on TV, but theyre full of it. Sorry to say, and i know you love your husband, but its not worth living the rest of your life in fear and depression knowing your husband could hurt you or steal from you at any moment. I would rather be alone than be with somebody like that, no matter how much i loved them
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