Conned but he told the truth?

Question by momsanangel: Conned but he told the truth?
Well an update on my 27 yr.old drug addicted son that came to my home after doing 8 months in jail and rehabilitation. He was here for 2 weeks & never once attempted to look for a job or a Doctor for his Diabetes & much needed Insulin along with his anti-depressants ~ which he wasn’t taking at all. He approached me late one night & said he wanted to leave & go live with his father…..the drunk. He didn’t want to hurt me anymore and admitted he was not ready to go out into the world and start all over again. He said he feel’s like a lonely 13 yr.old boy with no clue how to fix his problem. He also admitted he enjoyed getting high & sitting on his butt.
His Probation Officer called the next day & I gave the information she requested; which in turn led to his arrest and he now back in jail again.
I love my son and I know he has what it takes to get back on track. Or does he? Is drug addiction that difficult to walk away from forever? I feel so guilty every time this happens.
Most likely when he is released from jail (again) he will show up at my door. Remember now, I’m a softy! I don’t want him here because I like living alone now; after living so many years in fear & chaos. I will tell him ‘no’. I want to tell him ‘no’. He has no where else to go but his “dads”…..he’s an arrogant & violent alcoholic. Second, third, fourth, fifth chances…? If he has no where to go he will inevitably get into some kind of trouble to end him back in jail. WHAT TO DO? All answers welcome. Thank You!

Best answer:

Answer by monkeymom
That’s so hard – but you did the right thing for your son. The one who should feel guilty is him. He’s an adult and makes his own decisions. He knows how you feel, he knows he hurts you with his bad decisions, he apparently knows right from wrong, and yet still continues to make bad decisions even knowing what the consequences will be. Kudos to you for not being his enabler. Tough love is of course tough, but also necessary.

Hang in there – and good luck!

Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!