Father in law won’t seek medical intervention?

Question by Halloween Baby: Father in law won’t seek medical intervention?
My father in law is very ill and will not seek medical attention. His situation is a matter of life and death I fear and I am not sure what to do. He is in his 60’s, and had stomach cancer about 6 years ago. The stomach cancer has left him amaciated and week, as well as with an adiction to prescription drugs. He is a veterenarian so he goes to a special vet doctor. He hasn’t let anyone go with him to the doctor and is not following up with tests, he just goes to get his medication. In the past month or so he has become very very ill, his feet and stomach have swollen up he can barely walk, has become combative and confused and just yesterday looks jaundiced. I fear his liver is severely failing at this point and everyone in the family has given up on him. He also has a heart condition and a pacemaker. He had a heart attack about 9 months ago. He says that if an ambulance is called he will not go and has refused that in a situation before. I really don’t know what to do but do not want to give up! He needs help. Someone said to call adult protective services but when I looked it up it sais it was for the abused and neglected. What can I do? Please help. Thank you for any advice!

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Answer by duckieluv0329
You said he is sometimes confused? Does he have a medical directive? When he was in good health and able to make decisions did he ever tell his caregivers what he wanted as far as how he wanted too pass?
It’s so important to talk to people that are close to you so you have a plan at times like this.
The directive must be done when the person is in their right mind and pain free at least as much as possible they can’t make decisions at the end someone will have to do it for them.
It’s going to have to be a Family member preferably the one closest to him.
I’m sure he has made statements at one time or another about if he wanted to be resuscitated ? Use any info and your heart to decide it’s all you can do You and his kids know if he would want to be in a hospital on machines or not try to keep HIS wants in front of yours, even if you don’t agree the important thing is to try to ease his pain and make his passing less traumatic for him encourage his Family to come see him and help you in any way they can it’s important for their own piece of mind and will make their grieving easier. Just love and comfort him it’s all you can really do.
P.S.
Once he can longer get up out of bed call his DR. they can setup Hospice (they are Angels) Remember you can only do what you can do. I’ll keep your Family in my thoughts and prayers

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