Is my mother crazy? Or is her behavior in the realm of normal?

Question by Feddy: Is my mother crazy? Or is her behavior in the realm of normal?
Trust me, it hurts so much to say this, but I think my mother is a bad influence on me. I am 20 and go to college FAR from home (my parents pay minimal bills and I am very financially independent for a college student). I have 4 siblings. Sometimes I won’t turn on my phone for a few days because I need zero distractions, and when I turn it on again there is always at least one message from her asking why I haven’t called her. Once she even called the police and had them find me! I am openly gay, and ever since I was a teenager my mom treated me like there was something wrong with me (taking me to numerous counselors and crying and saying that I’m going to become a bad adult… yes, seriously). When I come home, she is always very loving, but the most recent time she went through my stuff and found a prescription stimulant I take responsibly and under a doctor’s supervision. She accused me of being addicted to methamphetamine (which I’m not, the prescription wasn’t for methamphetamine either) and that I had put methamphetamine in some B-vitamins that I gave my sister (which I didn’t). Sometimes she makes me feel like there is something wrong with me, like I should call her all the time and not take prescription drugs (even though they help), but then other times I realize that this is a ridiculous idea and that my mom is a bad influence. Sometimes she can be downright mean, like when I was in elementary and middle school she would lock, yes lock, me outside and make me jog around the neighborhood because she said I was too fat. She has toned down now that I am older, but I think her behavior may be a sign that she is not sane. Is this at all normal? How can I get her to stop? I already avoid going home as much as possible, but it’s hard cause I have no money….

Best answer:

Answer by Idontknow
Sounds pretty normal to me. I don’t know many people who don’t have some story within the range of yours about their parents. Of course, if we want to talk ideals, she’s not right mentally, but ideals are not what most people live up to. Let it go. If she isn’t good for your own mental state, tell her how she effects you and if she doesn’t respect it, cut off communication even if that means cutting her out of your life.

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