Niki N:

my mother was with someone with an addiction for 9 years . Manipulation and abuse was what he used to get his way and made her get a job 2 support his ciggarett, coffee,drug addiction. I would watch him all the time like a baby because he had seizures from all that stuff all day every day he went through a 20 packs every 2-3 days.the men never ate or slept from the coffee and ciggaretts. he aged poorly. he was so mentally abusive to my family that my mother almost slipped into it ..she fell for his lies oh hes a changed man now.nope… shes fine now and found the will to get away. in the end unless this man wants to help himself then dont trust him dont get invovled exspecally if you have kids…..if you think he can do it just wait and see he needs help…good luck

toomuch:

let that be a warning for you The addiction disease is a toxic to everyone around the addict,as nice as that person may be…. you need to be checked for all blood borne type infection s if you had any intimate relations ever with him. Then every 6mo for a while get retested since it may not show on the first test. use all the recommended protection for any new relationship or just hold off until you have enough proof of not being infected w/anything that could be passed on to a new person. The addict may never tell you his/her infections as their addiction is like oxygen to them, they will do nothing to endanger the possibility of being able to get drug money in the future by maintaining old relationships as long as they can-using relatives and friends and other unsuspecting victims to get it before having to turn to crime on strangers who are more likely to be suspicious. They hate themselves after wards, and may commit suicide because of the guilt they may feel when sober, but it still won’t stop the disease from progressing. They may get into recovery but it is lifelong and there is no saying when it could come back-ruining lives around them as well. Go to an alonon meeting if you need to get more info about enabling and addictions in general.
. I would then move on and not ever go back to that person, it will be a lifelong struggle for him and no cure, and you can lose your health and sanity and ..well, everything-everything meaning they can steal from you, use you r identity when desperate so change any bank acct num,bers or PIN numbers you may have had when with him, they may have snooped into your things and know info like mothers maiden name etc and can then open accts in your name, saying you “moved”-knowing enough info about you and address etc) Do not confrant them ou would only get drama and denials about it, just take action to protect yourself NOW. Congrats- you may now be a bit older and wiser.

^nez^:

Try to refer this one to him.. I found it in the internet. I guess this can help him