Comments on: HELP My Boyfriends on METH?

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 11:40:48 +0000

I was in that same situation for a long time. It’s very heartbreaking, I know. I was with my ex for about a year and a half and his drug problems brought me down just as low as he was. Eventually, I ended up on drugs myself. He didn’t have a drug of choice, he was just addicted to getting high and soon I was the same. Both of us ended up using needles.. cocaine, meth, pain pills, heroine, we smoked crack, you name it we did it. I lost my family, my friends, my job, my house, my car… everything. All because I loved him and tried to help him get clean. I tried cocaine with him the first time just because I wanted to understand what was so great about it and why it was so important to him. It happens fast, a lot faster than you would think. And you don’t even realize how far down you’ve gone until you hit rock bottom. Finally I had to leave him to get clean. It broke my heart but I had to do it for myself. I had to move to another state with a friend ( now my husband) to get clean. He sat on me for months, taking care of me when I was sick from withdrawal, and I got off the stuff. But what you have to realize is that if he isn’t ready to quit he won’t. You can’t force someone to want to get clean and they won’t do it for you or anyone else. He won’t get clean for anyone but himself. You stay in a relationship with someone that you love because it makes you happy, right? Are you really happy? As much as it hurts, you may just have to break it off. I know that’s not what you want to hear, and I know it hurts like hell. But it hurts just as much being with him. It may sound selfish, but would you rather see one life go down the tubes or two? The second one being yours. Please think about it and remember to put yourself first because no one else is going to. Right now, that dope is all he cares about. I’ve been clean and happy 5 years now, and I wouldn’t be if I had stayed with him. I’d probably be dead or in prison. Please please please put yourself first.

By: nellina2009

nellina2009 — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:46:49 +0000

I feel very badly for you right now. You are caught between a wall and rock…… Basically, even if you love love love love him, and he love love love love’s you, that is not to say he can or even will easily kick this habit. Meth/crack/cocaine etc. are all deadly drugs…. why? because they alter your mind, how you think, how you feel, how you act, what your goals are, who you love etc. All of a sudden, those bills that were top priority, they become LAST priority because he needs his fix. Work that was at one point the ideal job he could want, becomes a figment of his imagination and he could care less if he went bankrupt or went on welfare. His children are still the love of his life, but their needs will come after his fix if they are met at all. You will be put in a position where fighting and battling and hurt becomes the CENTRE of your relationship with him. Your fighting for him to stop because you’re on the outside looking in, he is fighting to come down and is stressed and upset with himself subconsciously and because he is depressed will most likely fall back to drugs because it is a quick fix in clouding the problems in his life. I fell the only way to help someone like this is A-get them to willingly get themselves checked into rehab, or B-threaten to report his children to child services because he is an unfit father, hoping this MIGHT make him change C- leave him, and notify family/friends/law enforcements of his behaviour and get protection for his kids
Other then that you can’t do ANYTHING….. he is a grown adult and is choosing this self distructing path. I hope the best for YOU that you can be strong enough to pull through this, and understand, sometimes people need to lose something before they realize they need to shape up and fix things.
good luck

By: bopdaddytoo

bopdaddytoo — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:44:39 +0000

find a new boyfriend as he will not change until he is in jail or dying.